I prefer to discuss the topic and to remain on the topic, and the topic is not me. An argument for abortion has absolutely nothing to do with me or any person, just as my argument against abortion has nothing to do with any person. Debaters are here to set forth reasons for and reasons against the procedure. The subject is not about the people entering into the discussion. Is that so difficult to understand?
As far as pronouns...if the topic is being discussed, there is very little need for pronouns, most particularly the 'you' pronoun. Try it.