ClaireH
Diamond Member
What you’ve described is the best way for families to deal with a family member with a hard drug addiction. The family often has a choice to either go under with the drug addict or to stay slightly detached (tough love not enabling) to not sink themselves as well. I know of a family that decided to inadvertently enable their son’s addiction instead of keeping healthy layer of detachment and it was a disaster all around.I don't hang around people who buy illegal drugs. Nor does any of my family. If say a brother or a cousin started using, and OD'd, we'd be sad about it. Maybe offer as much help as they needed B4 the OD. But if they OD'd, we'd bury them and go on about our lives.
Our family is pretty tight, when it comes to helping each other get along. But when they start F'n up, drugs, trouble with the law, then we're not so helpful. We take personal responsibility pretty seriously.
The adage that it’s necessary for an addict to hit rock bottom can work for many to get on the road to recovery, unfortunately for other addicts they don’t have “bottoms” until death.
Here’s to personal responsibility being a crucial qualify that most families will continue to nurture.