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Yes, I would forgive her without a doubt. I would not be happy about the affair, but I would forgive her.
Immie
Immie, I know you and forgiveness. With that stated, would you continue the marriage and/or trust again?
That's where he picked up the girls. 
I guess I wasn't that 'clueless' as I didn't get mad at what anyone had said. Stayed together another 4 years, with plenty of repeats, but I guess I just wasn't ready. Then I was. He wasn't. He dragged out the divorce for 4 years.
LOL, somehow I don't think you'd cheat. You'd end the marriage first, everything has an order.Yes, I would forgive her without a doubt. I would not be happy about the affair, but I would forgive her.
Immie
Immie, I know you and forgiveness. With that stated, would you continue the marriage and/or trust again?
Yes, I would continue the marriage. The trust question is a little bit more difficult to answer. I think it would depend on the circumstances of the affair.
However, I'd look at the eligible females that I know in a much different light than I do now.
Immie
Yesyour spouse if you caught them cheating on you?
Or would you never be able to trust them again?
LOL, somehow I don't think you'd cheat. You'd end the marriage first, everything has an order.Immie, I know you and forgiveness. With that stated, would you continue the marriage and/or trust again?
Yes, I would continue the marriage. The trust question is a little bit more difficult to answer. I think it would depend on the circumstances of the affair.
However, I'd look at the eligible females that I know in a much different light than I do now.
Immie
Christianity is supposed to be about forgiveness.your spouse if you caught them cheating on you?
Or would you never be able to trust them again?
Just to throw a little more gas on the fire - are "religious" people more or less likely to forgive a cheating spouse?
Christianity is supposed to be about forgiveness.
Christianity is supposed to be about forgiveness.
Indeed it is. But that requires people to actually practice what they preach.
It's much easier to preach than practice, I've noticed.
Yeah. I've no stats to base my opinion on but I would guess that religious people might be less willing to forgive a spouse for cheating just because I think of religious people as being more dogmatic. Also because adultery is a sin in many religions.
Yeah. I've no stats to base my opinion on but I would guess that religious people might be less willing to forgive a spouse for cheating just because I think of religious people as being more dogmatic. Also because adultery is a sin in many religions.
In your personal opinion, do you think that they would continue the marriage, yet not actually forgive their spouse or do you think they are more likely to just split?
Which is worse in the realm of religion? To live with a spouse who has cheated and you allow the hurt, anger and mistrust to fester or to commit what many religious people believe is tantamount to the ultimate sin and divorce the one you vowed to love until death do you part?
LOL, somehow I don't think you'd cheat. You'd end the marriage first, everything has an order.Yes, I would continue the marriage. The trust question is a little bit more difficult to answer. I think it would depend on the circumstances of the affair.
However, I'd look at the eligible females that I know in a much different light than I do now.
Immie
If I found out that she cheated, I might feel free to open the marriage up a little bit. Not cheating so to speak. I'd simply say, if that was what she wanted she would have to deal with the lovely blonds in my life too. After all... I am all for Equal Rights!!
Immie
I guess it depends on what religion you follow. If yours forbids divorce, you have even more of a dilemma.
I'm no expert but I think it's okay with Protestants. Isn't the highest divorce rate among evangelicals in the Bible belt? I think I read that somewhere.I guess it depends on what religion you follow. If yours forbids divorce, you have even more of a dilemma.
Don't most of the "Christian" religions still technically forbid it?
I'm no expert but I think it's okay with Protestants. Isn't the highest divorce rate among evangelicals in the Bible belt? I think I read that somewhere.
(from the second link above - religioustolerance.org)The data showed that the highest divorce rates were found in the Bible Belt. "Tennessee, Arkansas, Alabama and Oklahoma round out the Top Five in frequency of divorce...the divorce rates in these conservative states are roughly 50 percent above the national average" of 4.2/1000 people.
* 11 southern states (AL, AR, AZ, FL, GA, MS, NC, NM, OK, SC and TX averaged 5.1/1000 people. (LA data is not available; TX data is for 1997).
* Nine states in the Northeast (CT, MA, ME, NH, NJ, NY, PA, RI, VT) averaged only 3.5/1000 people.
Some of the factors that contribute to a high divorce rate in the Bible Belt, relative to Northeastern states are:
* More couples enter their first marriage at a younger age.
* Average household incomes are lower (OK and AR rate 46th and 47th in the U.S.)
* They have a lower percentage of Roman Catholics, a denomination that does not recognize divorce.
Anthony Jordan, executive director of the Southern Baptist Convention in Oklahoma commented: "I applaud the Catholics," says Jordan. "I don't think we as Protestant evangelists have done nearly as well preparing people for marriage. And in the name of being loving and accepting, we have not placed the stigma on divorce that we should have."
* Some factor in conservative Protestantism -- which is prevalent in the Bible Belt -- may causes a higher level of divorce.
Color me surprised - according to this site: http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nvss/divorce90_04.pdf, divorce rates have basically been going down. That is as of 2005.
This one focuses more on religious persons' divorce rates, etc.: U.S. divorce rates: for various faith groups, age groups and geographical areas
Meaning, your tolerance level pretty close to mine. LOL! Really, there's not room for 3 or 5.
Christianity is supposed to be about forgiveness.
Indeed it is. But that requires people to actually practice what they preach.
It's much easier to preach than practice, I've noticed.
Yeah. I've no stats to base my opinion on but I would guess that religious people might be less willing to forgive a spouse for cheating just because I think of religious people as being more dogmatic. Also because adultery is a sin in many religions.
It would be good to hear what some religious people think. Perhaps some will share their thoughts?
My opinion that religious people are less likely to forgive could just be a prejudice.
Cool!Personally, as a Christian, I think I am more prone to forgive such a thing as I look at the Cross, I see my own forgiveness and my need to extend it to my wife and others as well. I would look at being more dogmatic about forgiveness than being dogmatic about sin.
I realize there are other Christians who view this in a different manner than I do, but, I believe that Christ died to forgive our sins. Who am I to hold another's sins against them when I have been forgiven?
I'm not perfect. Sometimes I lose my cool, but generally, I realize later that I need to forgive the perceived transgressions of that jerk that just cut me off and made me miss the light! How dare he? By the way, that is the reason my car does not have any Christian emblems affixed to it. When I give someone the "single fingered salute", I don't want them to know that I am a Christian and am supposed to act like one.
Immie
I wish I could forgive you for that terrible joke.I once went out with a married woman whose husband was cheating on her. Clever woman. She was the managing director of a flooring company. Yeh. She was a world authority on carpets, an expert on rugs and not at all bad on lino.
