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    According to the media, most folks panic about aging when they turn a "Big O" type birthday, but like the pain in the ass that I am, I have never had my panic attacks on schedule. In a few weeks, I will be 57. Probably due to my horrendous math skills, it has finally dawned on me that I might not be "middle aged" anymore. After all, I don't reasonably expect (nor wish) to live to be 114 years old.

    So, okie dokie, I'm not young. I'm not middle aged. But I'm not old yet, I dun think. (I keep pushing back the definition of "old"; I used to be sure 70 year olds were "old" but these days, I'm not so sure.) I'm not a "senior" (somehow that just feels too academic), I'm not "mature" (never really held that as a goal, I admit), so just exactly WTF am I?

    We need a new language for aging in this country, and new visions of what aging means. When I was young, women my age were almost interchangable. Same clothing, same hair styles, same everything. Men clung to viability a bit longer, but eventually fell into society's junk heap as well. I'm unsure what the hell to buy in clothing stores anymore. Am I still jeans-eligible? I want rebellious clothing, fun clothing, cool clothing -- but is that even possible now?

    I finally let my hair color go natural. Lots of white, a little brown -- it ain't a bad color, actually. No one has seen my natural hair color in thirty years; even I didn't know what to expect. And whether it is a perception problem or not, this past week I noticed my first crow's feet. There is absolutely no doubt, I look my age.

    But what does that mean? I remember the ladies of a certain age from my youth as a mostly invisible group of people useful mainly for cooking and cleaning. Well, I never learned to cook and pretty much I clean when the spirit moves me.

    I hope you young snots appreciate how hard it is to keep inventing new ways of being in the world for you to adapt when your turn comes.

    *Winks*

     
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    My theory is that youth ends at 30, and middle-age ends at 60, and the age of venerable decrepitude begins at 90.

    Your mileage may vary depending on driving circumstances.

    As to what to wear and how to conduct yourself?

    Blind Faith​
     
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    age is such an objective-subjetive thing.....

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    I wish.

    Old, older, oldest -- dead.

    Seems pretty objective to me.

     
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    I married an older man. I will always feel young compared to him. Lol

    Two of my closest friends have become grandmoms. I told them they have now become officially "old people"
     
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    well Maddy, i suppose it pays to NOT be oldest....


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    It sure is, spark.

    Remember back in day when we were subjected to being objectivified by the pretty young girlies as little more than stud-muffin sex toys?

    Now that subject sedom comes up and I object.
     
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    I do believe older women should dress age appropriately though. There is a difference between sexy and slutty. 30 -40-50 somethings should know the difference. Dressing like a 20 year old is just pathetic and sad to me,
     
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    Not just older women, older men, too.

    When I see some clown my age wearing his baseball cap backwards, (assuming that if he's NOT catching in a basball game or welding, of course) I just want to bitch slap the idiot and tell him that he's too old to be making fashion statements reserved for children.
     
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