Terminating a toxic frienship: How?

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  1. Kiki Cannoli
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    Kiki Cannoli Have you met my shadow?

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    Let's preface, very small community, neighbors, same social circle - but I need to draw some firm boundaries and remove this source of angst and bad vibes. She is sucking all my chi.

    Any guidance? I've never had to 'breakup' with a friend.
     
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    Either suck it up or tell her to her face you can not be friends anymore.
     
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    Kiki Cannoli Have you met my shadow?

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    yeah that would be grown up too, i imagine.
     
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    Do you want to draw boundaries or completely break it off??
     
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    Kiki Cannoli Have you met my shadow?

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    you're right.

    damn. i guess i just needed a grown up 2x4
     
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    Crackerjack Too sick for a cure

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    Kiki Cannoli Have you met my shadow?

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    good question! Now that I think about it...

    I need to break it off it is not healthy; codependency, manipulation, alcoholism and a lying cake eater. Really don't want this person in my life anymore.
     
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    Snub..
     
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    Just say it all, as it will be your last contact (hopefully)

    Write it down, read it over and make sure its what YOU need to say in parting.
     

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