I'm sorry, but when I was a teenager and got my dick in a girls mouth or vagina I considered that I was having sex. If my tongue was on her clit we both considered it a sex act. if today's kids don't, then they need a refresher course in biology.
To your earlier point, what clinton thinks means nothing, its what the american people, his wife, and Monica think that matters.
What the American people thought was, "Why the fuck are these Assclown Republicans messing with the guy when the economy is so awesome!!!" I'm sure Hillary and Monica thought the same thing.