Polyamory: Inside An Open Marriage

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    I ran across this article while looking for something else online, and thought it might make an interesting topic for discussion.

    ". . . "Ethical non-monogamy" or "polyamory" (literally translated as "many loves") means having loving, intimate relationships with more than one person with the full consent of everyone involved.

    The phenomenon is on the rise in North America, including among midlife couples seeking new sexual adventures and emotional connections after being with the same partner for many years. Some believe this type of marriage has such broad appeal that over the next decade it will become accepted as a viable lifestyle choice. A recent Newsweek report, noting an estimated 500,000 Americans are practising polyamory, proposed that it could be "the next sexual revolution." And in Canada, there are online polyamory support groups in every province . . ."

    Polyamory: Inside an open marriage - Deciding to try polyamory - More magazine

    The story opens with a description of a married couple which opened to include a female friend of the wife whose husband had recently passed away.

    It goes on to include descriptions of what polyamorous marriages are like and how they are developed, written by two authors with new books on the market, Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by New York sex educator and writer Tristan Taormino and Open: Love, Sex and Life in an Open Marriage by Jenny Block.

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    If there are books telling me how to do something, it's too complicated.
     
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    I hate to break it to you, but there are myriad books telling you how to conduct a regular, monogamous marriage.
     
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    So apparently, Newsweek did a story on this in late July.

    Polyamory: The Next Sexual Revolution? - Newsweek

    What I thought was interesting was what they had to say about children.

    "Anecdotally, research shows that children can do well in poly families—as long as they're in a stable home with loving parents, says Elisabeth Sheff, a sociologist at Georgia State University, who is conducting the first large-scale study of children of poly parents, which has been ongoing for a decade."

    So basically, it's still - always - about the parents and the family.
     
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    More perversion designed to destroy the traditional family unit, which the rock of society. Bottom line is that however fun this may sound, it doesn't work. People just don't like the idea of their spouse fucking other people. It creates heavy tension and division in a marriage.

    Funny, polygamists practice "polyamory", but nobody calls them "revolutionary", just backward and weird. Anyway, the women who escape these marriages invariably describe them as horrible. The jealousy is intense.
     
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    Um, dude, polygamists and polyamorists are the same people. I think what you MEANT to say was "splinter Mormon groups", or "religious cults", which are something else entirely.

    I realize that, given who I'm talking to, this is wasted effort, but has it occurred to you that you have an inappropriately America-centric view of humanity? You simply assume that the way American society is and has been throughout its rather short history is the norm for all human society throughout history, and it isn't true. Hell, American society isn't even the norm for the world right at this moment.
     
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    'Sister Wives' Brings A Real-Life 'Big Love' Family To TLC - ABC News

    Is it just me, or is this for some reason just a HUGE topic lately? Although I have to wonder why TLC thought they had to go with a "fundamentalist Mormon family" to get a reality show about a polygamist family, since there are apparently thousands of them in America who AREN'T Mormon at all, and aren't doing it for religious reasons.

    The series will follow the fundamentalist Mormon family of Kody Brown and his four "sister wives"—Meri, Janelle, Christine, and their new wife, Robyn. Together, they have 13 children living in a Utah apartment building.

    The newest addition to the family, Robyn, explained their living situation to RadarOnline:

    "There are three in one home with separate apartments and I'm separate right now. We're hoping to be all in one home. I felt like the secretiveness of the society has been a little bit dangerous for the society, as well as the public. This is part of our reason for essentially coming out. This is a story that needs to be told. I think that by simply telling this story and not getting into prejudices it actually helps the society to understand."

    Polygamy is illegal, but Kody explained that his family isn't breaking any laws since, "It's one legal marriage and the rest are commitment marriages."
     
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    Marriage problems, Cesspool?
     
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    I'm a 37 yo married mom in an open marriage and in a relationship that includes my sister, her husband, my sisters lover and my 22 yo daughter.
     
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    You must be really happy.
     

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