Nope it's not Kumbaya elsewhere. But it's far more dangerous in Muslim families (or cultures - take your pick)
"Failing to accurately describe the problem makes it more difficult to develop public policies to address it"
And you surely have statistical data like rape in marriage, female child rape to backup your claims?
How many murders happen in 'Western culture' that fit same characteristics as 'honor killings' but are termed as 'murder by stalker', 'murderous relationship drama', 'husband murders divorce-seeking wife' and such?
It's just termed differently, but it's exactly the same.
Very likely also has happened in your town.