Is It OK to Deny Sex to your Spouse?

[Bonzi]

... is it ever OK to totally cut your spouse off from sex?
Is it even OK to say "no" more often than yes?
What if your spouse has a high sex drive and you don't.....

What if your marriage is just totally fucked up and you have to ask these kind of questions?

Well if (1) is true, so be it. And I don't HAVE to ask, I want to and like to ask.
What of it?

Smoke, fire, duh

well you have a right to believe and make logical deductions based on what you read here.
I think it's funny that it gets under people's skin that I ask.
If it is true, people should find it refreshing that I'm being transparent and not being a phony baloney and bitching about politics and acting like a baby or drama queen.

 

[Bonzi]

what if it's bad quality sex?

Um..just telling you the law, dude.

(why does everyone think I'm a guy!?)

You don't express yourself in a feminine manner. It's more typical of a dude than a chick.

I don't get that impression at all. Quite the opposite.

I think I've been around the block a few more times than you. I also have six daughters. Five of them are probably older or more mature than you.

EDIT: From experience, I know how young women behave.

51 is not young.
Also, people sense different things from different people.
It's not a competition (who's right and who's wrong) - because I am very blunt and transparent, you feel that is not feminine. Pogo may pay attention to enough of my OTHER postings to see reality.

 

[Esmeralda]

I went for "other" because of the verb "deny". That implies it's a commodity to be traded for a price. Sex is supposed to be a consensual gig. If it's done as a favor, such as "I'll mow your lawn while you're on vacation", then it has no meaning.

what if you grow "disinterested" in sex, and no amount of counseling has helped?

I doubt that happens. That's a canary in the coal mine indicating something else is going on underneath.

Agree. It's either physical or mental.

 

[Esmeralda]

I went for "other" because of the verb "deny". That implies it's a commodity to be traded for a price. Sex is supposed to be a consensual gig. If it's done as a favor, such as "I'll mow your lawn while you're on vacation", then it has no meaning.

what if you grow "disinterested" in sex, and no amount of counseling has helped?

See a doctor or go to the mountain.

Don't call me "the mountain". I ain't a piece o' meat yanno.

Mixed metaphors? Seriously?

 

[Esmeralda]

What's this shit about money?
I just can't understand women that marry for money. Is that insane?
What kinds of dumbass man would fall for that? Stupid.

On of the perks of being filthy rich is the trophy wife.

It must be so rewarding to have a spouse that is in it for the money and doesn't love you. Wow. Such a perk.

 

[Buzz Jenkins]

Um..just telling you the law, dude.

dudette (why does everyone think I'm a guy!?)

Latent homosexual ideation.

Very Freudian. Isn't that mostly sexual? Not likely to come through in typed word... I don't think that's it....

Jesus fucking Christ, you can really drain the life out of anything, can't you, Bonzi? It was a fucking joke, you humorless fucker. It is no wonder you are alwAys on here talking about sex - you significant other has gotten fed up with you, hadn't he?

You are a wet blanket, honey. You are school in summertime. You are the alarm clock during a wet dream. Lighten the fuck up, you overbearing twat!

Actually, my husband wants to be around me ALL the time. I have no idea why....

Then you need to either keep him, or fear him!

 

[Tresha91203]

what if it's bad quality sex?

Um..just telling you the law, dude.

dudette (why does everyone think I'm a guy!?)

it's your lack of likability...

Hey! I didn't hold that against you and have come to adore you. ♥
Bonzi is on her way to a piece of my heart now that LybyrylMydya poofed on us.

What ever happened to LM? She was a hooot.

I dont know but I miss her.

 

[Tresha91203]

what if it's bad quality sex?

Um..just telling you the law, dude.

dudette (why does everyone think I'm a guy!?)

it's your lack of likability...

Hey! I didn't hold that against you and have come to adore you. ♥
Bonzi is on her way to a piece of my heart now that LybyrylMydya poofed on us.

I don't know who that is, but, I'm guessing it's a huge insult It's okay, I can take it.
Nice to "meet" you.

Noooo. No insult. I miss Liberal Media. Y'all have very different positions and personalities but it was still good. She was funny in a Tommy Lee Jones straight man way, so was fun to post with.

Anyway, it means so far so good. Welcome aboard.

 

[Bonzi]

Um..just telling you the law, dude.

dudette (why does everyone think I'm a guy!?)

it's your lack of likability...

Hey! I didn't hold that against you and have come to adore you. ♥
Bonzi is on her way to a piece of my heart now that LybyrylMydya poofed on us.

I don't know who that is, but, I'm guessing it's a huge insult It's okay, I can take it.
Nice to "meet" you.

Noooo. No insult. I miss Liberal Media. Y'all have very different positions and personalities but it was still good. She was funny in a Tommy Lee Jones straight man way, so was fun to post with.

Anyway, it means so far so good. Welcome aboard.

thanks, I have a tendency to rub people the wrong way - appreciate the kind words

 

[danielpalos]

i got over that by learning about the Art of massage.

 

[Bonzi]

i got over that by learning about the Art of massage.

everyone likes a massage... well that is not true, my brother's ex wife hated it...
maybe there is something to that... (the ex-wife part)

 

[danielpalos]

i got over that by learning about the Art of massage.

everyone likes a massage... well that is not true, my brother's ex wife hated it...
maybe there is something to that... (the ex-wife part)

my mom claims to hate it too. so, it may just be some persons. most guys just like being rubbed by cute chics.

 

[Bonzi]

i got over that by learning about the Art of massage.

everyone likes a massage... well that is not true, my brother's ex wife hated it...
maybe there is something to that... (the ex-wife part)

my mom claims to hate it too. so, it may just be some persons. most guys just like being rubbed by cute chics.

as long at they are socially moral..........

 

[danielpalos]

of course; who wants to waste their quality, social intercourse time on immoral practitioners of the abomination of hypocrisy.

 

[Bonzi]

of course; who wants to waste their quality, social intercourse time on immoral practitioners of the abomination of hypocrisy.

Nothing wrong with philanthropy from men of decent morals

 

[danielpalos]

in my Case, i prefer to establish a "generous petty cash fund" for such venture.

 

[Bonzi]

in my Case, i prefer to establish a "generous petty cash fund" for such venture.

well no need to keep on about free chics then!

 

[danielpalos]

in my Case, i prefer to establish a "generous petty cash fund" for such venture.

well no need to keep on about free chics then!

thank you. i will refrain from it but for political purposes.

 

[ninja007]

women do it all the time, no news here.

 

[danielpalos]

if, it is ok to deny sex, then it must also be ok to deny a relationship due to a lack of sex.