i'm trying to figure this out i don't much appreciate the idea of gay marriage, but i also feel people should be free to enter into whatever relationships (that don't involve minors) they feel are right for them and not violently harmful to society. above all else, i want the states to handle this obviously contentious issue, not a highly politicized congress. i have a serious problem with many on the religious right who seem to want to exclude gays from society, not only in preventing them to marry, but in condemning them and many other manners, almost like some of them are acting like if they just condemn gays enough, they'll dissapear or go away. this disturbs me greatly, as it seems unrealistic and mean-spirited, i don't mean to pick a fight, but how can people justify this sort of condemnation and disgust towards a group of people? i just read a book about the religious aspects of the civil rights movement from both sides (a stone of hope), and it seems that i heard many of the same arguments against blacks and inter-racial marriage in the 50's/60's as i now hear against gays and gay marriage. please fill me in on your honest opinions and please help me to figure all this out.