Forgiveness

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    I just returned from a weekend workshop. We talked about gratitude and forgiveness. I have some new insights about forgiveness and look forward to discussing them with you soon.


    Please share your thoughts and feelings about the topic.

    Forgiveness cannot be forced, but it can be invited. What's interesting is to examine what isn't willing to forgive inside and to take care of those places.
     
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    Forgiveness is a choice, much like everything else in life. I may not "feel" like forgiving someone. But it does not mean I shouldn't. In fact that is probably the best time to make that decision. It heals, the one doing the forgiving.
     
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    IMO, "shoulds" have nothing to do with forgiveness. Forgiveness feels better. It beats holding a grudge. Nonetheless forgiveness cannot be forced.

    It must flow from an authentic place, where we have taken care of ourselves when we've been hurt.

    Forgiveness doesn't require an apology.
     
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    "Should", has a lot to do with it, IMO. I should feed myself, much the same with forgiveness
     
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    Matthew 6:9–13
    "Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name.
    Your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.
    Give us this day our daily bread, and forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors.
    And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil."

    Many have said they forgive, but deep down they still harbor some anger or fear. True forgiveness is an elusive object. But it starts in the soul and not everyone can forgive. Compassion is not forgiveness. To forgive is to wipe the slate clean.
     
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    It depends...I've forgiven some, and others I've just become indifferent towards. One thing I won't do is give anyone the power to have me hold onto negative emotions.
     
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    I know there are many health advantages. It can literally keep you from stroking out.

     
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    Obviously, you have engaged in an activity this weekend of which you feel a need to be forgiven.

    The entire US Message Board forgives you all your transgressions...either real or imagined.

    :eusa_angel:
     
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    I disagree. Should sucks.
     
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    To me, forgiveness is understanding and acceptance. It never wipes the slate clean, but allows you to move forward with a new and higher love inside you. You acknowledge the wrong, whether it be within you or from someone else, you learn from it, and you move on in life with increased knowledge.
     

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