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I have now been to two funerals in the last 7 weeks where a loved one was cremated.
Both were very, very sad events.
In the case of the death of my brother-in-law, the memorial service (open casket) was on a Saturday; the ashes were given over to my sister on the Thursday following. In many ways, the Thursday was even harder for her.
We literally relived the funeral all over again on that Thursday.
In Germany, three weeks ago, I went to a funeral for someone whom I cared about deeply. She was also cremated, but before the memorial and immediately after the memorial service, the urn was placed in a sort of family crypt.
My experience from there two funerals is that in the case of cremation, when the remains are sent home, it is as if one goes through a funeral all over again. No real sense of closure.
But in the case of a funeral where the urn is buried, for instance, in a crypt, there is indeed closure.
These events have given me pause as to how I want to be buried when my time comes, hopefully, first in many years from now.
What are your thoughts about cremation? Closure, or no closure?
There are no political overtones at all in this OP and probably just as few religious overtones, just to note.
Both were very, very sad events.
In the case of the death of my brother-in-law, the memorial service (open casket) was on a Saturday; the ashes were given over to my sister on the Thursday following. In many ways, the Thursday was even harder for her.
We literally relived the funeral all over again on that Thursday.
In Germany, three weeks ago, I went to a funeral for someone whom I cared about deeply. She was also cremated, but before the memorial and immediately after the memorial service, the urn was placed in a sort of family crypt.
My experience from there two funerals is that in the case of cremation, when the remains are sent home, it is as if one goes through a funeral all over again. No real sense of closure.
But in the case of a funeral where the urn is buried, for instance, in a crypt, there is indeed closure.
These events have given me pause as to how I want to be buried when my time comes, hopefully, first in many years from now.
What are your thoughts about cremation? Closure, or no closure?
There are no political overtones at all in this OP and probably just as few religious overtones, just to note.
