Anybody read advice columns?

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    Dear Abby? Ann Landers?

    I read the first letter in this column, and was blown away. I could see my sister and BIL pulling a stunt like this.

    Dear Abby on uExpress
     
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    When I was a child I read them quite often. Dear Abby and her sister Ann Landers as well. A lot of reading went on in our house. I was quite angry until I learned to read. I did not like looking at ink splots that made no sense while everyone else was clearly enjoying themselves. :eusa_think: :cranky:

    And my father taught me. :razz:

    Regarding the link. Deaths of grand/parents often yield heartache.
     
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    I read the letters, but not the replies. It's much more informative to learn of others' travails than others' opinions.
     
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    What was your opinion of the letter I posted?
     
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    That was well above and beyond a death, and heartache. It was a deliberate, horrible act against a sibling. What kind of a sick bastard lies like that.

    Well. I mean, outside of my family, and obviously that of the author.
     
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    If i were to guess, there is more family dynamic here then meets the eye. I would further guess that there is money involved.

    In my opinion you do not need to be at any funeral, or service to give YOUR final respects.
     
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    Of course. Further - that is not the point. No one sibling or siblings should keep another from the funeral of their mother. My mother just died in February. My sister and I were only told because my BIL told her brother, who told us. Else we would be in the shoes of the author.
     
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    Just like any party..... if you pay for it you are the one to make up the invite list. So yes they do the "right" to keep anyone they want out. Funerals are NOT for the dead... they are for the living.
     
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    Everyone lies. It's a human characteristic. Some take it deeper. It is an advice column so it is within the realm of possibility that this one side is exaggerating/minimizing somewhat.
     
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    Ethically, unless a person has committed some grevious act, this is the wrong thing to do. It should go without saying that family members be informed and invited to these sorts of functions. Abby was correct on both counts.
     

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