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A successful marriage is no guarantee, but knowing these 7 things will definitely give you an edge.
It is disheartening to look at the sad statistics these days when it comes to the divorce rate compared with the number of actual successful marriages. As a divorce and relationship coach for women, I hear time and time again from my clients how they essentially jumped intomarriage only to realize later in those same marriages, that there were so many things they wished they had known before they said I do. This is true even for my female clients who gotmarried after living with their partner for a significant amount of time. One can reasonable conclude that knowing your husband-to-be as much as you can from having lived with him prior to getting married still isn't enough. Granted hindsight is always 20/20, but in my work as a divorce and relationship coach, I have noticed approximately 7 things that I consistently hear my female clients say during coaching sessions that they wished they had known before walking down the aisle. They include:
What being married is truly like: Too many women buy into the hype perpetuated by society and the media that marriage is a fairy tale with a happy ending. This can even happen to intelligent and highly successful women. They then realize (usually after it's too late) that they've entered into something far more serious than a fairy tale.
Being more acquainted with themselves: Too many women get married before they really understand who they are. That is not helpful when they suddenly have to take on the added task of understanding another person that ís a big part of their lives.
Taking a little more time before getting married: These are the women that felt pressured into getting married before they were completely ready. They realize later on that they really weren't truly in love with the person they married.
Know their future in laws a bit better: Some women are blindsided by how much their husbands are influenced by his own parent's view of marriage, and what it should be like. That is not always a good situation for a marriage.
Source: 7 Things Women Wish They Had Known Before They Got Married - eReporter
It is disheartening to look at the sad statistics these days when it comes to the divorce rate compared with the number of actual successful marriages. As a divorce and relationship coach for women, I hear time and time again from my clients how they essentially jumped intomarriage only to realize later in those same marriages, that there were so many things they wished they had known before they said I do. This is true even for my female clients who gotmarried after living with their partner for a significant amount of time. One can reasonable conclude that knowing your husband-to-be as much as you can from having lived with him prior to getting married still isn't enough. Granted hindsight is always 20/20, but in my work as a divorce and relationship coach, I have noticed approximately 7 things that I consistently hear my female clients say during coaching sessions that they wished they had known before walking down the aisle. They include:
What being married is truly like: Too many women buy into the hype perpetuated by society and the media that marriage is a fairy tale with a happy ending. This can even happen to intelligent and highly successful women. They then realize (usually after it's too late) that they've entered into something far more serious than a fairy tale.
Being more acquainted with themselves: Too many women get married before they really understand who they are. That is not helpful when they suddenly have to take on the added task of understanding another person that ís a big part of their lives.
Taking a little more time before getting married: These are the women that felt pressured into getting married before they were completely ready. They realize later on that they really weren't truly in love with the person they married.
Know their future in laws a bit better: Some women are blindsided by how much their husbands are influenced by his own parent's view of marriage, and what it should be like. That is not always a good situation for a marriage.
Source: 7 Things Women Wish They Had Known Before They Got Married - eReporter
You can't really know a person well enough or predict how well you will get along until you've lived with said person.
