Women In Committed Relationships (with Men)

[Bonzi]

... do you think women think men if they commit to date only them (or marry them) believe that that means they are the "woman of their dreams"?

That they will not even think of any other women?

That if, it's "real" they will not even notice other woman?

What do you think women think?

 

[Michelle420]

I don't think there is a box that fits all men and all women, relationships vary and the feelings attached to them are relative to the individuals coupled in the relationship.

 

[The Great Goose]

Something else. Permanently fixated on his lust for other women.

or

leaving.

jealousy surrounds us, binds the relationship together.

 

[Auld Phart]

Women that think they are in a committed relationship, need to be committed.


(or he does)

 

[Delta4Embassy]

... do you think women think men if they commit to date only them (or marry them) believe that that means they are the "woman of their dreams"?

That they will not even think of any other women?

That if, it's "real" they will not even notice other woman?

What do you think women think?

Men and women lust equally for others. It's natural to desire whatever you don't already have. As Huxley put it in "Brave New World"

"New things are better than old things. I want all new things."

If you don't accept this truth you're going to be upset when the reality comes a knocking. So instead, accept it and figure out how you'll deal with it when it does present itself.

Mongamy isn't healthy or natural. Very few animals practice mongamy, and amongst humans those societies that do are more miserable, violent, and self-destructive than those that don't.

 

[Bonzi]

don't you think most women that get married etc. think their husband loves only them?
Yes or No?

 

[Bonzi]

Why do women cry and get upset when their man looks at another woman or flirts?
Are they oblivious to reality?

 

[Delta4Embassy]

Why do women cry and get upset when their man looks at another woman or flirts?
Are they oblivious to reality?

Low self-esteem made lower.

If you already think you're ugly or less than ideal, having your SO looking at others you think look better than you is going to cause you added stress bringing you even lower.

I just tell myself of fit six-pack ab guys, ya but I get to eat. They get to skip meals and spend time making themselves miserable just to look good. I get to laya round watching tv and being inert. And yet, if they stop the exercising they become blobs of fat like Schawrzengger. If I stop, nothing happens whatsoever.

 

[Bonzi]

People say all the time - - if your man really loves you he won't talk to other women and flirt blah blah blah. this is not uncommon. You never hear men say "if my woman really loves me she won't look at or talk to another man" - not unless he's a narcissistic control freak who's unbalanced....

 

[iamwhatiseem]

don't you think most women that get married etc. think their husband loves only them?
Yes or No?

Love yes, lust..no

 

[Bonzi]

don't you think most women that get married etc. think their husband loves only them?
Yes or No?

Love yes, lust..no

So you think women are fully aware their husbands (or boyfriends) think about doing other women all the time?

 

[Bonzi]

My husband is very frank with me about stuff like that and women seem horrified about this.... the ones I talk to yet you all seem to think all women know that men think like this.

Is saying it out loud somehow different???

 

[iamwhatiseem]

So you think women are fully aware their husbands (or boyfriends) think about doing other women all the time?

In the back of their minds perhaps. But it is of course unhealthy to think about it if it bothers you, since no woman will ever find a normal straight male who doesn't.
Women do it also, just not so much and perhaps not so "tuned in" to every good looking woman they see.
It is really quite fascinating. You take a large crowd of people, say at a basketball game where you can see most of the people on the opposite side of the court. In that crowd let's say there is a really attractive woman. Just about every man on the other side saw her within seconds of her arrival...even if not one of them were looking for women to look at.
Women think we are always "looking". We are not. Not intentionally most of the time. It is just that our brains are so hard-wired to copulate and spread our seed like every male species on the planet - that we truly can't help noticing every attractive female within eyeshot. The trouble begins when the woman tries to personalize it.

 

[Bonzi]

So you think women are fully aware their husbands (or boyfriends) think about doing other women all the time?

In the back of their minds perhaps. But it is of course unhealthy to think about it if it bothers you, since no woman will ever find a normal straight male who doesn't.
Women do it also, just not so much and perhaps not so "tuned in" to every good looking woman they see.
It is really quite fascinating. You take a large crowd of people, say at a basketball game where you can see most of the people on the opposite side of the court. In that crowd let's say there is a really attractive woman. Just about every man on the other side saw her within seconds of her arrival...even if not one of them were looking for women to look at.
Women think we are always "looking". We are not. Not intentionally most of the time. It is just that our brains are so hard-wired to copulate and spread our seed like every male species on the planet - that we truly can't help noticing every attractive female within eyeshot. The trouble begins when the woman tries to personalize it.

Maybe it's more about respect.
Like, it's ok to KNOW it, but if the man says it out loud to the wife/girlfriend, it's like a slap in the face/insult/disrespectful.....

Now, if woman doesn't feel like her man loves her just for her being her and will not cheat or go with other women, why do they let themselves go after they get married?

It's not like divorce is not an option.... or cheating.....

 

[Iceweasel]

How is it my fault if her tits are staring right at me?

 

[iamwhatiseem]

(1) Maybe it's more about respect.
Like, it's ok to KNOW it, but if the man says it out loud to the wife/girlfriend, it's like a slap in the face/insult/disrespectful.....

(2) Now, if woman doesn't feel like her man loves her just for her being her and will not cheat or go with other women, why do they let themselves go after they get married?

It's not like divorce is not an option.... or cheating.....

(1) Of course. Any guy who is stupid enough to verbalize his thoughts like that deserves every bit of anger she gives him back.

(2) Wow - thank you for saying that. Rare is the woman that gets that.

 

[Bonzi]

How is it my fault if her tits are staring right at me?

 

[Bonzi]

(1) Maybe it's more about respect.
Like, it's ok to KNOW it, but if the man says it out loud to the wife/girlfriend, it's like a slap in the face/insult/disrespectful.....

(2) Now, if woman doesn't feel like her man loves her just for her being her and will not cheat or go with other women, why do they let themselves go after they get married?

It's not like divorce is not an option.... or cheating.....

(1) Of course. Any guy who is stupid enough to verbalize his thoughts like that deserves every bit of anger she gives him back.

(2) Wow - thank you for saying that. Rare is the woman that gets that.

I think of it this way... if you love your man, you'll want to stay fit and look good for him... no?

 

[iamwhatiseem]

I think of it this way... if you love your man, you'll want to stay fit and look good for him... no?

Will you marry me?


Of course it goes the other way also...if a guy becomes a fat slob eating cheeseburgers everyday it is the same.

 

[Bonzi]

I think of it this way... if you love your man, you'll want to stay fit and look good for him... no?

Will you marry me?


Of course it goes the other way also...if a guy becomes a fat slob eating cheeseburgers everyday it is the same.

well if my hubby dumps me (which he won't!) so I'll just laugh along with you on that one....