Crimes of sexual assault or harassment are generally crimes committed in private. Do you think Brock Turner would have been convicted of rape if he hadn’t been caught in the Act by two witnesses? If he had taken his victim to a private bedroom instead of assaulting her in a public place, he would have walked because it would have been a “he said/she said” case and he would have claimed she consented.
Unless the victim is badly beaten, rape leaves no proof. There may be evidence of sexual intercourse, but whether it was consensual or forced, will be difficult to prove beyond a reasonable doubt. Where the victim and the accused are acquainted, it becomes even more difficult to prove that she didn’t consent, and especially to meet the standard “beyond a reasonable doubt”.
The high profile cases where the victim lied, like Duke, are high profile precisely because they are rare. Had the Rolling Stone reporter done his/her job and interviewed the corroborating witnesses, they would have heard a different story that the one the “victim” told. This was a failure in doing research before publication.
And while the victim in the Rolling Stone story may have been lying, the 200 or so other rape victims who came forward at Duke to say similar stuff happened to them, in all likelihood, were not.
One in four women are the victims of sexual assault/harassment in their lifetime. One in six women are raped. If that doesn’t give decent men pause for reflection, there is no hope of this sad fact ever changing.
National Statistics on Sexual Violence
Women don’t report it because they fear they won’t be believed. How many women have told their mothers of an assault by their stepfathers only to have their mother deny it happened. When it happened to a member of my extended family, her mother threw her out of the house. The girl was 14. Her mother still blames her for the “trouble” she caused.
Sexual harassment is always a power play. Harvey Weinstein didn’t prey on big stars who would be taken seriously and believed, he preyed on young hopefuls whose careers he could and did crush if they refused him.
Bill Cosby attacked women who trusted him when he offered to help them with their careers.
Who would believe a 14 year old high school girl that the local Assistant District Attorney had molested her? Many here don’t believe he did this today, despite multiple unrelated accusers, supported by corroborating evidence and more than 30 corroborating witnesses.
Women are done with keeping silent. It’s not working for us. Time to try something different. Silence didn’t keep it from happening to my daughters. Hopefully my granddaughter and great granddaughter will grow up in a safer world because the silence has now been broken.
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