When someone's first concern upon learning of the murder of scores of innocent people is what COLOR they are, there is a very serious ******* moral problem at hand.
When my husband first hears about a killing and the killer's picture isn't shown yet, he always asks, "Was he black?" I read the same thing in a book recently where the author said that black people respond that way because if the killer turns out to be black, it's just one more piece of evidence for white people to use when they say, "Black people are violent." It's like every single black person carries the burden to be a representative of their entire race. White people don't carry that same burden.
Did anyone say immediately following THIS shooting, "See I told you white people are violent. What's wrong with those white people, killing each other like that?" (probably not. it will probably be explained away or blamed on an abusive parent, traumatic childhood, mental problem, etc. but it will not be blamed on his race.)
It sounds like your using your husbands bias as a measure of all white people, but he is not representative of everyone. Now my father he is like your husband, everything is "black this" and "black that" and a lot of times he has to eat his words because of it. My father also has a stigma he has attached to Harley Davidson, to him for decades anyone riding a Harley, wearing a Harley shirt was most likely a criminal. Then when I was 31, I bought a Harley and he didn't like it but for a while the HD criminal complaints subsided. After I sold it they came back, but then he became friends with a man his age(79 now) that owned a Harley and had ridden it cross-country multiple times, he was dumbfounded and exasperated but no more HD criminal association.
Growing up my mother refused to let me or my sister to ever use the "N-word" at that time(70's). We lived in the suburbs outside Atlanta and until I entered second grade there weren't many black people/kids around to know, not because they were unwelcome but they just weren't there. Then in 76' a developer wanted to build some apartments between the interstate and town, down at the end of my street. Most of the residents were opposed and feared it would bring crime, but the developer won and built the apartments. Very next year in school I met my first black people in class and made a friend right away, his name was Charles. By the end of the year I had made several more black friends, but they rarely lasted long as they seemed to come and go, moving all the time. And by the end of second grade the violence and crime people had feared showed its ugly face. I remember one morning, maybe 2 hours into the day the principal came to the class and took one of my black friends away, he never returned. A few days later I found out that the same morning after he left for school his parents had a fight and his father killed his mother before killing himself... From there on the atmosphere in those apartments went down hill, as they added more units the crime grew larger and larger. Soon the police had to build a special station inside the apartment complex to try and regain control. Locals soon referred to the area as either, "The Drive" or "The Crack". My house was 1.3 miles further up the street and I could here automatic weapons firing regularly at night. For years there had been a 7-11 store down in the area, but it had been robbed so many times the owners decided to close it. On the final night it was open a girl I'd gone to highschool with was the clerk that final night, her husband dropped of their 2 year old on his way to work, but 45 minutes before closing a black man came in, robbed her and after he had the money he shot and killed her in front of her daughter, this was 1990.
I make it a point to try and give everyone a chance, but the argument some make that the high number of blacks incarcerated is a sign of racism just isn't looking at the facts. I do understand how more blacks end up committing crimes, but denying they commit them isn't going to help things. I do not believe it is genetic at all, I do believe it is a matter of familial and cultural breakdown. When the family falls apart so goes society. Blacks were done a huge disservice back in the 60's when LBJ started handing out checks and penalizing families monetarily if they had a father or father figure in the home, rewarding single moms with greater benefits. Add in the decline of inner cities and opportunity had left town. Now we have generations of kids raised by nobody or by a street gang and they can at times act like animals, not because they are but because they grew up essentially in the wild. Dog eat dog, survival of the fittest. I don't know the solution, but somehow we have to find a way to reward rebuilding families instead of more laws that further destroy them. Bringing back jobs helps, we need to learn to value employees equally with share holders instead of valuing only the next quarter.