We (Americans) love our country because it is OUR country. We (as a group that includes our ancestors) made this Nation. We formed her Constitution. We made the laws we live by. We have a government that we made and is intended to serve the people instead of the other way around and we realize we are responsible for what our country does. We work hard and sacrifice much for our fellow Americans. We realize that as a nation we are not perfect, never have been, never will be but we don't let that stop us from trying to be.
As far as I am concerned America is made up of those of us who love our country and the remainder who are ungrateful irresponsible immature assholes who leech off the rest of us.
I appreciate your loyalty and passion, and think you would make a fine member of a truly free society, though I question the lucidity of what you've said here.
This "we" you refer to is a mental construct. Any group I choose to associate with from beyond the time of my birth is a rather arbitrary choice that I have made. No different then choosing to become Jewish, then talking about "We (Jews) have been doing XYZ for thousands of years". The "we" is just an act of imagination. To illustrate this, I can disassociate myself from the "we" with equal validity. I could say "I wasn't alive during the ol' slavery days, so don't lump me in with those people" and who could argue that? So this "we" is an opt-in/opt-out choice we're making in our own minds.
Even the "we" of today is an illusion. What do I have to do with some guy living halfway across the country that I've never met? About the same as with some guy halfway around the world in another country. And why is the guy in northern Washington state part of my "we", but the guy a few miles away in Canada not part of it? Because an imaginary line that people made up before I was born says so? This is an odd rationale, is it not? We must recognize that we're just creating a story in our own head when we say these things.
Despite the intent, the government does not - and cannot -
serve the people. For a government to BE a government, it must have authority. By definition, this means the people serve the government, not the other way around. Masters make rules, slaves obey rules; is this not correct? Well, who makes the rules? Who is to obey? You can say that we pick who the master is, and that the master provides benefits to the slaves, but that doesn't change the nature of the relationship. Providing benefits at your own discretion is not
serving. You can say that the master himself is subject to his own rules, but so what? He's still the one making them up, and you're not (and in reality, we know that politicians are largely above the law in practical terms; even their agents are - police and military - in the overwhelming majority of cases).
We're responsible for what our country does? I agree, but is that really the prevalent paradigm? Seems to me that people get more upset about their kid getting a note home for acting up in class than they do about their government committing acts of mass atrocity. They may say, "yeah, it's bad what they did to all those innocent people in Nagasaki, Iraq, etc." but they're not losing any sleep over it. If they truly felt responsible, they would be mortified. No, I think it's more like we want government to use it's big stick to bang people over the head on our behalf and say they owe us that service, but when they club the wrong person we just step back and feel no responsibility whatsoever. If we did, then we would feel 9/11 was justified, as there would be no such thing as an "innocent American" after what "we" have done in Middle Eastern countries.
As for being ungrateful, I'm not sure what you want people to be grateful for. I suspect it's for not being more harshly dominated than they are. At least that's what I gather when I hear people say "try living in Somalia - we have the best government in the world". Sounds to me like living on a more comfortable plantation equates to freedom in most people's minds. As if freedom was relative and had degrees. Freedom does
not have degrees. You are free, or you are not. Only slavery has degrees; and we are living in free-range, partial slavery under a government that claims rights which no individual has. They can tax me, but I can't tax them. They can make laws for me, but I can't make laws for them. That is not equality, that is not freedom, and that is nothing to be grateful for.
I'm grateful for truly cooperative people who understand freedom and voluntary interaction. I'm even grateful for the fundamental desire to be moral present within all the misguided people who support institutionalized violence thinking they're being good, responsible human beings. At least they're not truly evil, as that would make the situation hopeless. At least now, they need only realize how their support of government conflicts with their own morality to snap out of it; which is happening slowly, but in ever-increasing numbers.