I don't equate the dinner, dance, and coffee to sex, but then I have never had to much problem getting laid either, but it wasn't always the big point of the evening for me. That was high school stuff.
What I found out about women is you have to make yourself "Rare," "One of a Kind." and available to do whatever they want. Rare is everything about a women. From the diamond ring, the shoes, the clothes. Notice how they want clothes like no other women has. Once it has been seen, it's time to go find another rare piece of clothes. So what does this mean, make yourself "rare?"
My bachelor pad had all the necessities a women needed who would spend the night. Tooth brushes, under arm deodorant, oils, moisturizers, hair brush & comb, hair blower, hair spray, bath robe, and lots of smelly stuff like candles, incense, potpourri, etc. Washer & dryer & kitchen, BQ. Soft music, etc. Give them eye contact and friendly conversation. They can come and spend the night and leave for work in the morning if you have done your set up right. And a clean orderly house, less is best. You give women what other men would never think to give them, a Sanctuary, a place to enjoy you and be relaxed while they are there. Someone they can share all the problems of the world with.
Lots of liquor & drinks, teas, coffees, etc. Girls like to explore. Oils and some massage skills are a plus. Get yourself a few books and don't be afraid to try. Great way to get them naked, relaxed, trusting, and ready for some huggy poo. A very soft & thick fur rug for the livingroom floor & pillows.
Perhaps the most telling of rare is a large desk calander with scribbles showing all your up coming dates, and what date nights/days you still have available,.....right there where they can see it. You make it clear from the first date, you are not about love and a steady future, but are exploring. You also make it clear they are welcome to come over anytime, but call first in case another women happens to be there. I seldom went on dates where we didn't end up at my place to spend the night, unless we were going out of town.
So you are looking rare, exciting, and unatainable, but worth trying to get. And word spreads among the clubs and before you know it you have a different date every night of the week if you want it. You have business women calling and wondering if they can spend the night, because they told their husband they were going out of town on business. I hate to say it, but I made a slave out of my neighbor, and required her to bring a six pack if she wanted to spend the night. LOL! Yes, true.
And I think the most important thing is dating women who share the same kind of sports that you do. You have to go where they are, and usually they are not in the bar, but at the ski lodge or down at the Marina, or car races, football, whatever. Those are the ones you want for a life mate.