This is about people being equal, not things.
People are equal, what isn't equal is the marriages some are seeking.
That's not yours to decide. That is why we have a Court to interpret the Constitution.
You don't let the fans decide whether the player was in or out of bounds. That decision belongs to the referees.
The referees can't decide that the forward pass is illegal all of a sudden, on their own. The rulebook as to be changed for that.
and most pro sports are more like dictatorships than a democracy. Poor choice of comparison there, although most progressives do seem to like the hard handed fist of a dictator.
Marty brings up an interesting point, imo. Did the Sup Ct change the rule book, aka constitution and 14th amend, in finding DOMA illegal as to federal employees, and did the Circuits do the same in finding bans on same sex marriage unenforceable? Basically, the courts have found there is no rational argument for treating non-heteros differently in marriage from heteros.
If there was never any rational reason, then did the law change or was enforcement simply changed? I realize Marty and Rabbi would argue "it's for the children," but that argument was thoroughly discredited because there was no showing gays had no more negative impacts on child rearing than heteros.