Because despite decades of attempts to force the idea that women are just as capable as men in the work force, reality shows that a good deal of them are emotionally incapable of defending themselves, lack the self confidence to speak up, and are too wrapped up in the "feminist quest for a career" to actually bother standing up for their own [alleged] personal moral convictions...
Trying to stand up against the enablers of predators is extremely emotionally taxing and if those females do not have good people standing with them they are crushed under the weight of the false accusations and bs that follows complaint or taking a stand for truth. It is much better now than it was thirty and forty years ago but I don't think on a whole at this point there is any excuse for people who can help stand against abuse staying silent about it when it happens. If the abused do not speak up now when it happens or with more recent incidences they are assisting the enablers of abuses.
That doesn't really deflate my point; it is becoming clear that a rather large portion of women are, or at a minimum, "were" too emotionally weak to handle themselves without protections. Ironically those protections were that women stayed away from the cut-throat world of business, they were protected from other men; hell they had separate train cars in the way back (so the men could talk shit, and the women could gab, and so that the men would take the brunt of the impact in an accident.) 90% of the shit that feminism labels as "disrespectful" to women is actually the exact fucking opposite - but this is the age of being offended so idiots all over are actively turning over every stone to find anything that could remotely be considered offensive in some twisted way. But I digress on the subject of "progressive ideology inevitably leading to stupidity."
I do agree though, women should say something, right then, and perhaps even if /they/ are not offended at the time (when we're talking about abuse of power situations.) I made that mistake myself. My bosses husband (also a coworker and in a management position, though not /my/ manager) was all over me, I turned him down hard, repeatedly, but I ultimately had to move to a different district because he wouldn't give up. It didn't offend me, nor did he "rape or assault" me by even today's crazy standards, he was just persistent... He was always very respectful (charming even), but I wasn't interested in him, so ya know I never reported it, I just removed myself from the situation. Years later the guy went to jail for sleeping with the young teen (15-18 year old) employees he was supposed to be supervising. I kicked myself a bit after that, because I could have stopped them girls from getting involved with the guy (and his wife, cause she was in on it all) but at the time, it just didn't occur to me that I wasn't a "special" case (I was a pretty narc what does one expect heh) I didn't really think he was hitting on everyone... I didn't think he was pedo...
I cannot help but wonder how many of these #metoo women's /real/ story is like mine? Where the woman just blew it off for whatever reason. To bring it up now as an "accusation" is pretty shitty imo. Not saying we can't have a "cultural adjustment" where that's not the norm anymore - where it's reported immediately and stuff, but I'm not sure they're... being fully honest... or maybe not helping the cause... It's hard to explain, but it's like we're stuck in this hysteria atm that's deflating any actual good that might come out of this "movement"
Like we seriously need to have an adult discussion to define, or even redefine, what constitutes sexual assault and harassment... In the past it was kind of based on "malicious" intent... It's like, when I decided I wanted to sleep with my current husband, I didn't ask his permission like some pussy beta; I grabbed his ass and stuck my tongue down his throat - fully expecting that he was into me based on our flirting and shit prior. IF he had pushed me away or turned me down then it was no big deal, swing and a miss, nothing more. It's not like I'd have stalked him or pushed him into it if he wasn't interested. My intentions were not "malicious" in the slightest. Similarly like Bush patting the gal on the ass, the David-cop-a-feel joke is older than dirt, there's no "harm" intended in that, it's just playing around. I mean I get it if a gal doesn't want her ass touched, but how about being an adult and saying that you don't like it straight up - guaranteed 99% of guys would be like "no problem, sorry" because they didn't mean anything by it, didn't mean to upset the gal or anything. It's like when married guys joke about their "ball and chain" and how "shitty marriage is" - it's just a joke, ya know what I mean? Then there's the fruit loop shit like a guy complementing a woman is harassment, give me a fucking break... Look we're sexual creatures, even us women, we have sex on the brain all the time so we joke about it all the damn time - we have to respect that "reality" too, plus how's a guy and a girl gonna hook up if /everything/ that might get them into bed is considered rape, assault, or harassment? It's unrealistic and it ... cheapens the seriousness of the terms - like calling everyone a nazi and shit.
I'm just saying that there has to be an adult discussion about the "new" parameters of "acceptable" behavior, we can't just hold everyone to these new undisclosed standards 20 years down the road - and I don't see how we can have that kind of discussion when we're in this hysteria of #metoo... IDK the solution, but there has to be some realistic limits that somehow respects both the ideas that not all men are fucking pigs, and that some of us women /want/ a guy to be bold and "aggressive" in their pick up lines. There has to be a mutual respect and understanding, as well as discussion about what /women/ need to say or do or something if a guy catcalls them and that makes them uncomfortable - calling the police isn't the right response IMO, women need to say hey, don't do that - and men (likely already) can respect that that particular woman doesn't like it, no biggie and both move on with a better understanding of each other. A good thing ya know, a positive outcome.
