Personal Interests

[Dhara]

Brain research: See Rick Hanson, Foundations of Well Being.

Presence Parenting:Susan Stiffleman

Behavior Change: See tinyhabits.com

Inner Relationship Focusing: See Ann Weiser Cornell

Crime Fiction: All the scandi noir authors

Bike trips.

Kids

Cats

Poetry

Name yours, and let's see how much we have in common!

 

[Bonzi]

Psychology. I'm fascinated with what makes people tick

Investigation Discovery: any real (or fictional) crime shows

Tennis

Sports (especially baseball, football and hockey)

Movies

Music

The Beach

Playing games/riding rides/anything adventurous and spontaneous!

 

[Auld Phart]

Old movies, esp serials

target shooting

 

[Dhara]

Old movies, esp serials

target shooting

I'm not into guns but I bet I'd enjoy target shooting.

 

[Auld Phart]

Good way to get some fresh air, not a lot of physical activity.

and, if you ever need a firearm, you know you can hit what you aim at.

 

[Bonzi]

Old movies, esp serials

target shooting

I'd love to try target shooting!

 

[Bonzi]

It's funny I like doing kids stuff, but I really don't like kids that much..... I mean in small doses, ok but I would lose my marbles being a teacher!

 

[Dhara]

I love kids, mine most of all.

 

[Dhara]

BTW Rick Hanson says you can hardwire happiness.

 

[Bonzi]

if it involves work, I'm not interested

 

[Dhara]

if it involves work, I'm not interested

LOL. It's only work if you think taking in the good and savoring it is work.

 

[Bonzi]

if it involves work, I'm not interested

LOL. It's only work if you think taking in the good and savoring it is work.

Does it require any change or effort?
If so, it's work!!!

 

[Dhara]

Is it effort to stay with an enjoyable experience?

 

[Dhara]

12-15 seconds of effort to stay with an enjoyable experience.

 

[Bonzi]

okay make me happy in 15 seconds... go!

 

[Dhara]

LOL That's funny. I think his idea is that you remember something that made you happy and you take 15 seconds to stay with the memory of it in a bodily way.

 

[Bonzi]

I tried that last night. Tried to think of something happy and calming to get to sleep.
I had a hard time with that. Every happy memory I have makes me cry.
Or makes me mad (cause it's gone)

 

[Dhara]

I tried that last night. Tried to think of something happy and calming to get to sleep.
I had a hard time with that. Every happy memory I have makes me cry.
Or makes me mad (cause it's gone)

Well, you could start with something simple and ordinary. Like the joy of taking a shower. The warm water, the soap or shampoo and it's scent, the invigorating feeling of the water hitting your body. Stuff like that. Something that doesn't involve loss.

If you can feel the memory in your body where it still lives on a cellular level then it isn't really lost.

But that's neither here nor there. It's a process I guess.

 

[Bonzi]

Everything I think of that makes me happy, is unattainable, so, it makes me sad.
I carry on though. Overall, life is good.
Going through the motions.