Yep.
I see us as all having an innate struggle between our sense of being an individual and of being part of a group. We need that group bond in order to survive, but have the sort of self-awareness necessary to act as an individual, so there is always a tension between the two.
I imagine something of a bell curve where those at one end of the spectrum you have the sociopaths, the the heretics and the loners, and at the other end you have the fundamentalists, the totalitarians, and the sheeple. Too much individuality leads to dysfunction, but so does excessive conformity -- mob behavior and whatnot.
Man oh man, just looking around the board right now.
As this stuff just keeps getting worse, I'm seeing things written that would never even enter my head, not in a thousand years.
It's troubling, frankly. Every time we hit a new low, it's only temporary.
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I've never seen so much sheer hate, uglyness, vitriole, labeling, and an utter unwillingness to discuss as I have lately. It's very dispiriting and it is coming from both sides. There seem to be no brakes.
1. How has it come to this?
2. What good can come from this behavior, specifically?
3. What, if anything, can be done to reverse this ugly course?
It certainly isn't a new phenomenum, in fact I'm surprised no one complained until now. It's been getting worse and worse and worse each year.
1. How has it come to this? Good question. A fundamental lack of manners and compassion disquised anti-PC maybe? An inability to recognize that just because you CAN - doesn't mean you should? You can blame the idiot that behaved that way, but don't overlook the role of the media (all kinds) and the unwillingness of the audience to condemn these kinds of attacks a culture that seems to glorify this behavior as "free speech".
2. What good can come from it? I honestly don't know. The only good I can think of is that it puts sunlight on some truly deplorable behavior and challenges us, on all sides to condemn it.
3. Condemnation. Stepping in and making a difference. Not being a standerby and allowing it. Not DEFENDING IT. You don't have to be violent. Whether it's Ivanka Trump or Michelle Obama or a Jewish guy with a yarmuka or a Muslim woman with a hajib - it should be excused. You can't be saying Trump caused it with his ugly rhetoric as an excuse for bad behavior. Teaching kids that this is not how to express political displeasure. Publically humiliating the attacker with condemnation.
Others have mentioned "tribalism". Humans are social animals - we're hardwired to want to be part of a group. Unfortunately a lot of "bonding rituals" include bullying and violence towards outsiders to solidify the group.
You may disagree with this, but there goes: On one hand, I agree, this over-the-top snap-back against PC has led to, enabled, and allowed for some horrible,
counter-productive behaviors. And no one is more virulently anti-PC than I am. That seems to be an ongoing problem in this country - we just love to kneejerk at every opportunity, and Trump really played on that. More than anything else, THAT got him into office.
HOWEVER - it would also be a mistake to acknowledge that and then ignore/dismiss the size and passion of the anti-PC'ers. While some of their behaviors have been flat-out wrong, they were and are reacting to something that has been taking place and growing for decades. It's real, and it's not going anywhere.
I think that those who push PC are as responsible for Trump as anyone else. It's time they admit that and stop pushing it.
Regarding what can be done, my guess is that it has reached a point where a grass roots effort like that just isn't enough. The hatred on both sides is just too intense for that. My guess is that it will take
people recognized as "leaders" - political, business, sports, pop culture, music, all of it - to be brave and use their position and visibility and influence to call it out and condemn it in no uncertain terms.
Look at it another way: Companies pay "celebrities" millions and millions to promote and endorse their products because they know the public will react to those endorsements.
Well, maybe those same people could leverage their considerable influence to deal with the hatred that has infected this country. It shouldn't be that way - the thought of "celebrities" (plus more serious leaders, such as politics & business) coming to the rescue is repellent to me - but I think that's where we are.
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You make some really good points Mac. And I agree - the PC-extremists are just as much to blame but I wonder if too much is made of PC because it seems like what used to be called good manners and being nice now gets automatically labeled "PC" - sometimes I don't even what PC is half the time.
I think you might be right there, but in a sense - you're asking celebrities to be role models, and that is appropriate.
Thank you. I think PC goes far beyond manners, though. Quick examples, and I could definitely go on:
1. The lives of millions,
generations of American blacks being damaged by people who enable bad behaviors by spinning and deflecting and excusing them. Any serious criticism is met with "you're just a racist", a tactic specifically meant to put the target on the defensive and avoid honest conversation on a
critical topic.
2. College kids being enabled, even supported, in shutting and shouting down all opposing ideas during
the very best time of their lives for hearing it and seriously considering it. We are closing young, fertile, brilliant minds at
the very time we should be
guaranteeing that they are exposed to
all ideas and possibilities.
3. Shutting and shouting down all opposing thought with screams of racist, Nazi, fascist, homophobe, misogynist, on and on, accomplishing
nothing but avoiding honest, introspective communication - the kind of communication that
must happen if we're
ever going to heal the divisions in this country that are only getting deeper and deeper.
Regarding "asking celebrities to be role models" - oh yeah, believe me, I know you're right. My thought process on this (such as it is) is that we have become such a shallow, celebrity-driven, media-driven culture that we might be able to
leverage those very things to right the ship. If we're going to give these people such wealth and such (damn near literal) worship, then let's
leverage this worship in a positive way. Kind of a Hail Mary pass, I have to admit.
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