As I alluded to earlier, there were a lot of terrible things that the US did during WW2 in response to terrible things that the enemy did to us. Specifically, the atom bombs dropped on Japan, were to terrorize and shock Japanese people and emperor. In reality they saved a lot of lives on both sides. After that, conventions of war were changed.
Whoa, explain how it saved lives... Japan was close to defeat and really, those were massive civillian casualties with the most destructive weapon ever at the time... are you telling me that dropping smaller bombs on military targets would've escalated things?
To answer your question directly, blowing up a home of suspected insurgents does not equal the same. The people who are in there are involved and therefore fair game, or if not, should know not to be there.
The people who are there? The people who live in their town you mean? What the hell are they doing? Staying inside their homes while we drop bombs! Fools! Are you involved with everything in your town? If there are criminals in your city, you deserve to be killed? WTF?