Open Marriages

[Blaster]

I never understood the reasoning behind these so called marriages. Any man that would agree to this is out of touch with reality. Why get married if you want to bang other people?

 

[candycorn]

I never understood the reasoning behind these so called marriages. Any man that would agree to this is out of touch with reality. Why get married if you want to bang other people?

Makes us wonder why you’re voting for someone who is “out of touch with reality” as you put it.

Marriage is tricky and what works for one couple won’t work for others.

 

[DGS49]

It is an arrangement of convenience. There are many simple advantages to marriage. Shared housing and expenses, maintaining relationships with common friends, periodic sexual congress, combined resources, and so on. But conventional marriage is, by definition, monogamous, and some people are unwilling to make such a commitment, and correspondingly don't demand such a commitment from their partner.

Whatever works for you.

Parenthetically, I have signed on to a FB group whose theme is, "Am I the Ass-Hole?" People talk about circumstances in their lives that cause conflict, and ask the FB group whether their position is unreasonable.

MANY, if not most of these situations involve middle-aged adults who describe themselves as "boyfriend" and "girlfriend."

This is bullshit. Such a relationship is, by definition, NOT committed and NOT necessarily monogamous. When adults want to enter into a monogamous relationship, the get engaged or married. Usually, it's the woman who is complaining one way or another that she is not getting the treatment that she thinks she deserves.

Yes she is (in almost all cases). If you are in a BF/GF relationship you cannot demand the treatment and privileges that are accorded to spouses.

I have spoken.

 

[Votto]

I never understood the reasoning behind these so called marriages. Any man that would agree to this is out of touch with reality. Why get married if you want to bang other people?

Because you feel the need to appear normal so others will like you?

 

[shockedcanadian]

I never understood the reasoning behind these so called marriages. Any man that would agree to this is out of touch with reality. Why get married if you want to bang other people?

I've had a few people with either blunt direct offers or in which their profile suggests they are in an open marriage so I presume with such a profile they are pursuing such "relations" when they showed interest in my profile.

Women/couples are certainly not shy in 2024.

I'm not sure if I should be offended as I am "not keeper material" or to feel humbled that my photo elicited their interest.

Meh. It's not my thing but to each their own. Some can separate themselves from their love for each other and intimate acts with others.

 

[Votto]

I've had a few people with either blunt direct offers or in which their profile suggests they are in an open marriage so I presume with such a profile they are pursuing such "relations".

I'm not sure if I should be offended as I am "not keeper material" or to feel humbled that my photo elicited their interest.

Meh. It's not my thing but to each their own. Some can separate themselves from their love for each other and acts with others.

I worked with this idiot who put his profile on a dating site. On it, he put he was in an open marriage and then proceeded to list a ridiculous profile, calling himself the Italian Salian. I found this out as other coworkers were gathered around a computer laughing their arses off while reading his idiocy.

But upon reflecting about previous interactions, I had with him, it was not surprising to me in the least. He was truly an idiot.

To this day he has no idea what people think of him.

 

[toobfreak]

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OH DEAR GOD, just put a pointy black hat and cape on her, send in the monkeys and be DONE with it!!!

 

[boevans]

Why? Just fornicate.

 

[TNHarley]

To each their own, is all I can say. I certainly want no part of it.

 

[shockedcanadian]

I worked with this idiot who put his profile on a dating site. On it, he put he was in an open marriage and then proceeded to list a ridiculous profile, calling himself the Italian Salian. I found this out as other coworkers were gathered around a computer laughing their arses off while reading his idiocy.

But upon reflecting about previous interactions, I had with him, it was not surprising to me in the least. He was truly an idiot.

To this day he has no idea what people think of him.

I dont have any such invitations in my profile. Hell, I'm not even sure I am open to a relationship, it will definitely take time, my trust levels of women, and humanity in general truth be told is at a low ebb. I may be hoping for a woman that doesn't exist. Not in terms of beauty, but in terms of personality, spiritual fortitude and intellect.

 

[Harpy Eagle]

I never understood the reasoning behind these so called marriages.

Then you should not engage in such a marriage.

You should also not judge others that have different views than you

 

[Harpy Eagle]

I have two co-workers that are married and have what they call a polyamorous relationship.

One of them, the husband works with me, and his wife had a girlfriend that they both were involved with. Sometimes the 3 of them, sometimes just two of them in different combinations. Husband/girlfriend or wife/girlfriend or husband/wife.

Then the girlfriend and the wife "broke up" but the husband still sees the girlfriend on his own.

I do not understand how anyone does it, but they all seem very happy so I say more power to them.

A different co-worker, the wife works with me, had a female friend stay with them for a couple months while she was down on her luck and all 3 decided they all loved each other now they are all living together and seem happy as can be.

 

[Missourian]

You should also not judge others that have different views than you

Unless they support Donald Trump...then it's ok...

Heal thyself, physician.

 

[Harpy Eagle]

Unless they support Donald Trump...then it's ok...

Heal thyself, physician.

wow, you came into this thread just to post that.

damn, how pathetic

 

[Missourian]

wow, you came into this thread just to post that.

damn, how pathetic

Cry harder, hypocrite.

 

[Harpy Eagle]

Cry harder, hypocrite.

you once again confuse tears of laughter at how pathetic you are with tears of sadness.

If you had an ounce of self pride you would be embarrassed to have hunted me down just to make that lame ass post.

But, you do not

 

[Missourian]

you once again confuse tears of laughter at how pathetic you are with tears of sadness.

If you had an ounce of self pride you would be embarrassed to have hunted me down just to make that lame ass post.

But, you do not

Accurate post. And you're still cryin'.

Please continue protesting too much.

 

[SweetSue92]

I never understood the reasoning behind these so called marriages. Any man that would agree to this is out of touch with reality. Why get married if you want to bang other people?

My favorite end to these stories--and it's not unusual--is that the man requests the "open marriage" thinking he will pull hot 21 yo. Meanwhile his wife starts pulling hot dudes and then he gets super ticked.

And she's like sorry you lost arsehole

 

[Unkotare]

It is an arrangement of convenience. ...

Marriage is much more than that. An "open" marriage is not a marriage.

 

[Blaster]

Marriage is much more than that. An "open" marriage is not a marriage.

I've had quite a few married women try to hit on me. They seem hornier than single women.