On attracting men

[MayorQuimby]

Other than white and I told you this before and you laughed it off. You are not going to find a sane adequate white man to date you per your own admission. You are an Asian cross dresser.

Haha I am not a cross-dresser

 

[Darkwind]

Haha, you mean guys actually like that? Right there is the huge difference between men and women. Because I think most women would be put off by that.

That a woman gets a little awkward, tongue-tied, clumsy because I noticed she is attracted to Me?

Yeah, why would anyone be put off by that.

Of course, that is not to say it is okay to take advantage of that.

It would certainly put you in a different light.

This is not to say that the guy will find you anything more than a friend, and an honorable guy would say so if he noticed it.

I met My wife online and we talked for two years as friends before the romantic stuff started rearing its head.

We met in 1998. I moved to New York from California to try out this relationship and ended up marrying her in 2005.

We are still married today. In my opinion, friendship has its place, and it aids in helping you discover things about a person you normally wouldn't know until you've been with them for five or more years. We celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary last July. We've been together for 27 years now.

I'm not endorsing this or any relationship advice. Just some thoughts from the fringe.

 

[Blaster]

I am a real woman. Don't get too excited though, I am old and Asian.

Do you give good head?

 

[Darkwind]

Do you give good head?

She NOT love you, long time.

 

[MayorQuimby]

That a woman gets a little awkward, tongue-tied, clumsy because I noticed she is attracted to Me?

Yeah, why would anyone be put off by that.

I see.

But what if the guy is super-attractive? He would be sick of that reaction, wouldn't he? He would be "numb" to the ego-stroking effect of it, right?

 

[Darkwind]

I see.

But what if the guy is super-attractive? He would be sick of that reaction, wouldn't he? He would be "numb" to the ego-stroking effect of it, right?

Could be. If he isn't, then maybe..... ??

It's a crap shoot, lass. There are no easy answers to love or even sex.

 

[MayorQuimby]

Could be. If he isn't, then maybe..... ??

It's a crap shoot, lass. There are no easy answers to love or even sex.

I see.

Maybe I shouldn't over-think it. Just do like you say, be his friend, try not to act too awkward around him (but apparently a little bit awkward is permitted) and see how it goes.

I will let you know when one day my arms are full of mixed raced babies, OK?

 

[Blaster]

Most women are attracted to me.

 

[Darkwind]

I see.

Maybe I shouldn't over-think it. Just do like you say, be his friend, try not to act too awkward around him (but apparently a little bit awkward is permitted) and see how it goes.

I will let you know when one day my arms are full of mixed raced babies, OK?

At the worst, if it doesn't work, you're no worse off, eh?

You know the answer to that, right? Pics or it never happened.


er. Of the kids. I'm not up to paying for pics of your sex life. Ha!

 

[MayorQuimby]

At the worst, if it doesn't work, you're no worse off, eh?

You know the answer to that, right? Pics or it never happened.


er. Of the kids. I'm not up to paying for pics of your sex life. Ha!

Wow haven't heard this in years. Brings back memories man.

 

[1srelluc]

Asian.....Well, shit this won't help.

 

[JohnDB]

Hmm. Become friends with him first. That seems easy enough.

I sometimes might still act a bit awkward around him though simply because he is so good-looking.

That right there....
Being a friend. Someone he knows and can trust is crucial.

Hookup culture has been around....

You don't want a Chad or Tyrone from the gym....(look pretty but have zero family stability skills)

You don't want a lot of things in a permanent relationship. NEITHER DOES HE.

Imagine how often he gets hit on by women....the thirst traps leading to baby traps. Everyone wanting his money or to make him out to be more objectified than person.

Good guys like stability not eloquence. Compatibility Instead of charm.
And a more close long friendship is going to spare you the trauma of a romantic relationship....one where your wallet is emptied and you are heartbroken all at the same time.

IOW group events. You can invite him to group events...not dates. Don't put the cart in front of the horse. Small, careful moves.

 

[JGalt]

What can a woman do, if the man she likes won't ask her out? I am certainly not gonna go up to a guy and ask him out.

And I can really see it happening, as the sort of men I like are very, very good-looking. These men have options, and even though I am somewhat attractive, I am really very very far from a 10. I can really see these men just sitting back and seeing me as just one among the many that I am sure just doorstep them.

Show them your titties. That always worked on me, every time.

 

[gtopa1]

What can a woman do, if the man she likes won't ask her out? I am certainly not gonna go up to a guy and ask him out.

And I can really see it happening, as the sort of men I like are very, very good-looking. These men have options, and even though I am somewhat attractive, I am really very very far from a 10. I can really see these men just sitting back and seeing me as just one among the many that I am sure just doorstep them.

Ask him if he knows any good fishing spots and if he'd like to go with you to check them out. It worked for my wife.

Greg

 

[MayorQuimby]

That right there....
Being a friend. Someone he knows and can trust is crucial.

Hookup culture has been around....

You don't want a Chad or Tyrone from the gym....(look pretty but have zero family stability skills)

You don't want a lot of things in a permanent relationship. NEITHER DOES HE.

Imagine how often he gets hit on by women....the thirst traps leading to baby traps. Everyone wanting his money or to make him out to be more objectified than person.

Good guys like stability not eloquence. Compatibility Instead of charm.
And a more close long friendship is going to spare you the trauma of a romantic relationship....one where your wallet is emptied and you are heartbroken all at the same time.

IOW group events. You can invite him to group events...not dates. Don't put the cart in front of the horse. Small, careful moves.

I think I actually know what you are talking about; quality men do not want to be treated like a hunk of meat any more than women do and they want love and companionship just like everybody else.

Personally, what has worked for me is to just talk about subjects that interest me but aren't romantically related (this is to take the pressure off). For example, I like to talk about science and politics, and I find that quality guys also like to talk about stuff that's a bit intellectual like these. I find that it's a good way to impress upon them that I am not a shallow woman who is only after his money or his dick.

 

[Darkwind]

Wow haven't heard this in years. Brings back memories man.

I was thinking you were going to be like,

 

[MayorQuimby]

Ask him if he knows any good fishing spots and if he'd like to go with you to check them out. It worked for my wife.

Greg

This is good advice except I personally actually don't like fishing that much. Maybe I will ask him what a gun-range is like (a topic that I am genuinely curious about)

 

[1srelluc]

Ask him if he knows any good fishing spots and if he'd like to go with you to check them out. It worked for my wife.

Greg

Odd thing that.....When I would be surf fishing alone I was surprised at the MILFs that would suddenly show up and make small talk....I suspect they were hookers though.

 

[davebb]

Quimby is an Asian cross dresser

you oughta know

 

[Darkwind]

Show them your titties. That always worked on me, every time.

Well, when one has such a massive rack like you do....................

Oh, wait. You mean them show you. My bad.