You have hit on the problem blacks can't seem to overcome - and, until they do, they can't expect assimilation.
So the goal of the black race should be to conform?
It is quite sad that rampant individualism died out in 1783.
if you want to be a member of a society, then you have to be a contributor to that society. Right now, the black culture wants all the benefits, and doesn't want to do any of the work.
For you to equate assimilation with the loss of individualism is, simply, ignorant, and clearly indicates a lack of understanding of the fundamental underpinnings of any society,.