I was a feminist when the issue was denial of choices, options, opportunities for women. I still strongly support women not being denied that. As previously posted, mostly because I lived in small town and cities, I was able to manage putting home and family first and still enjoy rewarding pursuits in various careers over my adult lifetime.
I stopped being a feminist when it denigrated those women that held onto traditional values, concepts, ideals, ethics and belittled those who chose being a homemaker and full time mom over a 'career'.
I think I am probably on the same page with Erika there.