Alan Dershowitz complained bitterly in The Hill that his erstwhile friends on Martha's Vineyard have "shunned" him and refuse to invite him to their parties and dinners. This has hit the news cycle and a lot of op-eds have been written about it, most about how uncivil leftists now are. Dershowitz claims to be a major progressive, though I'd say that's in doubt: he's issue-centric. I remember when he was a great torture fan during the Bush Administration. Now he's written a couple of sort-of pro-Trump books, though really they are about the legal issues around impeachment and criminalizing political activity, fair enough. I mean to read both.
The problem is that Dershowitz asserts that open debate is central to democracy: essential to democracy. So my guess is that a lot of his "shunning" is because he's a REALLY bad dinner guest. Age 79, so he's got senior status and doesn't care what he says; and the best trial lawyer in the nation, I bet this guy never loses an argument, and that's seriously annoying. So when he comes to their parties, he argues all night about politics and wins ---- yeah, I'd stop inviting him, too. He's a pain.
But dozens of talkers have been writing op-eds and books all over claiming the same: that we HAVE to debate, have to talk (or yell) it all out, that this is essential to democracy. I don't agree --- I always thought it was the Secret Ballot that was central to democracy, and that's the exact opposite from quarreling it out. The secret ballot means you watch the news, you see what's going on, you vote and no one knows who you voted for unless you tell them, and that's how Trump won: we didn't tell.
Here we volunteer for debate. I have limits on it: I put the one-line obscene insult posters on ignore directly, and a lot of the others who are longer but just as nasty. Nevertheless, I'm here by choice when I am. But that family reunion in Boston this summer? Not really a choice, and I expect they will try to eat me up. I'm reading a lot of personal boundaries books so I can avoid being a victim, and I'll leave if people are rude. I won't talk politics no matter what! I'm announcing the old etiquette rule: in general company, never talk about politics, religion, or money.
What do you all think about the determination of many to argue politics in-person at social meetings?