When Trump was not involved in running for president and donating to charitable causes, he was acceptable and there were no complaints about his wife, Melania. Since he ran for and became president, suddenly, a wife becomes a target. She actually advised him "not" to run for president and he ignored her after seeing the decline of this nation. Wives are just that, wives, with the exception of those that "stump" for their husband's policies. Melania has her own personal project, cyber-bullying and "not" politics. When it comes to the spouses and children of politicians, and are not involved in the political arena, beyond standing next to their politician family member, I fail to see any rationale in attacking them, other than presenting oneself as uncivil, hate-filled, irrational and immature fools.
The really sad thing is that Pelosi said, "when they take the low road, we'll take the high road," indicating that the left will demonstrate civility, compassion and grace; the opposite proved what the Democratic party really is: Nazi, Fascist, trash.