That -- is good and worthy. But when you do that because you FEEL they are incapable of DOING IT THEMSELVES -- and they haven't ASKED for help -- and it's clear that others LIKE them with whatever life handicap they have CAN do it themselves -- you're just collecting personal virtue points.
And there's WAAY too much of that going around to be considered altruism or true compassion. True compassion and altruism is knowing THEIR STORY on an INDIVIDUAL basis -- not generalizing because of the trait or burden they carry.
Happens all the time with the deaf and blind. They dont LARGELY consider themselves handicapped. And have many times REJECTED the help.
READ THIS.. And remember before you ASSUME someone WANTS help.
Cochlear implants are touted as a medical miracle — and for some people, they do work wonders. For others, however, the implants can cause more harm than good.
www.insider.com
It was at Gallaudet that he first encountered Deaf — with a capital D — culture. Just like any other culture, deaf people have their own history, heroes, traditions, values, art forms, and most importantly, a rich and expressive language. And it wasn't until he was steeped in this culture that he realized he didn't need an implant after all.
"While I was picking up the aspects of Deaf culture and the language of ASL, I finally realized that I've found my own identity," he said. "I am Deaf and I am darn proud of it. From there, I didn't see the purpose to continue wearing my implant."