Hey all, I know I haven't been on awhile, but when I saw this topic, it hit a chord with me.
I remember when I was 14 years old working as a translator for the government at the Canada Games in a town far away from my parents and friends. I was in a booth at closing time all by myself. This gentleman comes up talking to me and i small-talk back innocently enough trying to be friends, but then he shifted the conversation towards my morals and what I believe. Then he told me point blank that he believe I was going to hell and then gave me this brochure which was fiery, distasteful cartoon booklet with graphic and gory pictures (i'm sure you've all seen them) and told me we would come back another day to see what I thought.
Well I, frankly, was frightened to heck. Firstly because i was 14 and away from my family. Secondly, because before this I had never really thought strongly about seeking out a change in spirituality. Two days passsed and sure enough, he did come back and I flagged security. He yelled at me, but he was taken away yelling that they were oppressing his rights and that we would all burn in hell.
My second real experience with this, was when I was hanging around at uni with my friends, two of whom were openly gay, when four men came up to them after saying a public display of affect and continued to lecture, in high voices, the sinfulness and vileness of their actions. Vile and unwarrented words like ***, fudgepacker, etc were thrown around. Campus cops, luckily were right by and escorted the 4 gentleman away. Again with the screaming of violation of rights and you'll burn in hell sinners... etc.
This is not preaching the gospel. This is not showing me the way. This is not love. These are predatory practices, not acts of grace. Closer to home, I have seen some statements on this board that disgust me in the same way and have come accross as poor ambasadors for their faith.
That being said, I have many more examples of great acts by Christians that made me reflect and say, "Wow, they do practice what they preach.". I think Joz's dad said it so eloquently in her post.
My very wise father felt that you did much better being an example than hitting someone over the head with a Bible.
So, if you can't SEE how I believe & I have to TELL you, I'm probably failing considerably.
The point is I respect your religion deeply, and I know that this is what Shattered is getting at, but there is very much a right way and wrong way to show the love of one's faith to other's.