"The queers" and their friends and family do want you to shove over, BBD. For starters, you could quit referring to GLBT people as "queers". That would be progress.
Hey, Mad, the gays refer to themselves as "queers". It's sort of like black people using the N-word: damned confusing if you condemn it on one hand and then use it yourself on the other.
While being pissed off and confrontational may be a natural response, in my experience it tends not to be the most effective one. My social club has a high percentage of gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans, etc. people in it compared to the general population, and it has both the in-your-face folks, and (fortunately) a lot more of the "change their minds by showing them what nice, regular people we really are" type. Although I like pretty much all of the people in my club, the in-your-face ones tend to just make me feel hostile. The others are the ones I actually invite over to my house to hang out with my family, because they're the ones that set the example that I want my kids to see . . . and because they're just more pleasant to have around.
One of the in-your-face gentlemen told me once that a lot of gays don't join our club because it's primarily heterosexual, and so they feel that it's irrelevant to their lives. That floored me. I mean, it's not like we're primarily hetero because we try to be. It's just mathematics. The WORLD is primarily hetero, after all. And to say that 95+% of the world is irrelevant to your life simply because they aren't sexually compatible with you . . . Could I say that homosexual men are irrelevant to my life? Or heterosexual females? Of course not. Just because I'm never going to be any more than friends with them doesn't mean they don't still make great friends and have a lot to offer my life.