A Stepford wife is ANY intelligent woman who comes to the conclusion that leftists are basically communists. This is the old story of "If you don't agree with me, you don't think for yourself".
The qualification a First Lady has is hopefully, she is the one loved by her husband, who because of his politics, is elected by the College of Electors, President of the United States of America.
First Ladies are the family and hopefully soulmates of the man elected to run our country, and she will have to sacrifice all his time for 4 years. Some use their closeness to the bully pulpit to promote good causes and host the families of world leaders and diplomats sometimes.
Lady Bird Johnson promoted wild flowers, and now, Texas still proudly shows bluebonnets, indian paintbrushes, blanket flowers, morning glories, blackeyed susans, and many pretty little flowers everywhere along state roads, remembering her encouragement of the highway department to keep the state beautiful. Jacqueline Kennedy was a walking advertisement for the clothing industry and especially, the pillbox hat. I liked Laura Bush's push for literacy, libraries, and the fine arts. A million immigrants in her state (also Texas) can now attend public schools free and are encouraged to read books. Libraries profited with more books, and school test scores are better than they were on account of her push for literacy. Michele Obama has done all she can to encourage fitness, fewer empty calories, and better foods for school children, the building blocks of a strong body and a sound mind. Each has a different gift. All did what they could with what they had.
And I acquired a cookbook 2 years ago that was a copy of Martha Washington's favorite recipes that she actually served people who came to the White House when her husband, George Washington, was President. It's a reminder to me of what people's lives were like back then and what was considered "the Good Life" back then. Mine is like this one, except it has a soft cover. But the recipes inside are interesting, full of common sense cooking basics, good enough for our first president's family and guests.