Zone1 Dumped by friends of 15 years

[1srelluc]

Meh, I found out who my real friends were on my first moving day.

Sorta went like this:

He said "Uh, let me go and ask my wife"
He come out of the house
I could see in his face
I knowed it was "no"
He said "I don't know man, ah she kinda funny, an' all"
I said "I know, everybody funny, now you funny too"

 

[Dr.Destructo]

I hear you man! The biggest mistake I ever made was befriending a progressive liberal. Although politics never came up she was highly controlling and ALWAYS wanted to have her own way and if she didn't get it with me she would have a fit and make me out to be the bad guy.



She never took any accountability for anything and this past election season I found a Kamala Harris sign up in her front yard. I knew her for about ten years but I just put up with her out of guilt that she didn't have any other friends in the neighborhood.



Once I saw the sign it fit until she wanted to go to the movies with me and started having a temper tantrum that I didn't want to go that one and we had already agreed on another one that we both wanted to see. That was the final straw that broke the camel's back.

Thats the weird thing, they aren't like that.
They both volunteer to help people in need..........anybody in need.
They donate their time to causes for animals, children, and the elderly.
If you ask them for help, they will show up.

They are not mean, vindictive, or "Karens" of any type.
They don't lie, cheat, steal, or take advantage of people.

But when it comes to politics, she's rock solid concrete on her stances.

She won't listen to anything else or anybody else.
She won't accept or look for help in understanding WHY she is this way on this subject.

They claim to have other friends who aren't Democrat, but changes the subject when I ask how she handles them.
So I don't know if they just cut themselves off from everybody that they were friends with, or I am an exception for some reason.

 

[initforme]

Some people base their lives on their political beliefs. Weirdos.

 

[Votto]

Some people base their lives on their political beliefs. Weirdos.

Cults will do that.

Cults consume it's members 24/7.

Your life is no longer your own.

They belong to the DNC now and will. do and say anything they are told to do by them, including slitting their own mothers neck if they vote for Trump.

Scary stuff.

 

[initforme]

Cults will do that.

Cults consume it's members 24/7.

Your life is no longer your own.

They belong to the DNC now and will. do and say anything they are told to do by them, including slitting their own mothers neck if they vote for Trump.

Scary stuff.

It's the same on both sides of the aisle. Politics should have zero affect on friendships. Unprincipled people factor it in.

 

[Votto]

It's the same on both sides of the aisle. Politics should have zero affect on friendships. Unprincipled people factor it in.

I have not heard of conservatives or Republicans ditching friends and family because they are democrats.

Have you?

In fact, Trump embraced former democrats and RFK who is not even a Republican.

 

[Blaster]

I have 2 friends (married couple) that I've been friends with for 15 years. Lets call them S and J.

I met them through S's sister who was a friend at the time. And we've done tons of stuff together over the years and been invited to some of their family get togethers. They claimed I was indeed, a part of their family.

They even helped me out a great deal when I had to go into the hospital a few years ago.

Thing is, they are Democrats. And until now, I didn't know how die hard Dem they are.

S called me tonight to tell me we can no longer be friends because of "whats in the White House".

I had a friend since 1999 do this to me in 2015, as she also turned out to be a die hard, brainwashed Dem.

With me being in my 60's now, and all of my family gone, as well as my other friends who've passed away in the last few years.......I only have 2 friends left now. One tries not to be political at all, and the other is a die hard Rep.

So, I'm kind of dizzy right now from our conversation.
Bascially S told me there's no way in hell she can get over me being a part of the "Nazi Party", although she could not explain to me what "Nazi" stuff she is talking about. She just states "read your history books again".

She said if I ever need help, she will be glad to help out, but we just cannot be friends anymore because she hates having to "hold it in" when around me. And I've NEVER told her to NOT "hold it in" when around me. In fact I've told her on multiple occassions to use me as a sounding board, or yell and scream if needed, she's not going to ever hurt my feelings. I understand her position and why she votes Dem, because she's explained it to me. And I've never cared, because I like them so much as people.

But she said she "can't get over it". So, I'm now down to 2 friends left. One lives in Canada and the other one has severe knee problems and can't get out much anymore.

God damn I despise this shit and getting old!!

I miss them already.

If they dropped you over politics they were never really friends. I have friends that are Republican, Democrat, Libertarian and Independent but politics has never put a wedge into our relationship.

 

[Andrew_Jackson_FTW]

I have 2 friends (married couple) that I've been friends with for 15 years. Lets call them S and J.

I met them through S's sister who was a friend at the time. And we've done tons of stuff together over the years and been invited to some of their family get togethers. They claimed I was indeed, a part of their family.

They even helped me out a great deal when I had to go into the hospital a few years ago.

Thing is, they are Democrats. And until now, I didn't know how die hard Dem they are.

S called me tonight to tell me we can no longer be friends because of "whats in the White House".

I had a friend since 1999 do this to me in 2015, as she also turned out to be a die hard, brainwashed Dem.

With me being in my 60's now, and all of my family gone, as well as my other friends who've passed away in the last few years.......I only have 2 friends left now. One tries not to be political at all, and the other is a die hard Rep.

So, I'm kind of dizzy right now from our conversation.
Bascially S told me there's no way in hell she can get over me being a part of the "Nazi Party", although she could not explain to me what "Nazi" stuff she is talking about. She just states "read your history books again".

She said if I ever need help, she will be glad to help out, but we just cannot be friends anymore because she hates having to "hold it in" when around me. And I've NEVER told her to NOT "hold it in" when around me. In fact I've told her on multiple occassions to use me as a sounding board, or yell and scream if needed, she's not going to ever hurt my feelings. I understand her position and why she votes Dem, because she's explained it to me. And I've never cared, because I like them so much as people.

But she said she "can't get over it". So, I'm now down to 2 friends left. One lives in Canada and the other one has severe knee problems and can't get out much anymore.

God damn I despise this shit and getting old!!

I miss them already.

Remember Jesus loves you. Friends come and go. The Lord is always there.

Maybe things will turn time heals.

 

[Hector12]

I have 2 friends (married couple) that I've been friends with for 15 years. Lets call them S and J.

I met them through S's sister who was a friend at the time. And we've done tons of stuff together over the years and been invited to some of their family get togethers. They claimed I was indeed, a part of their family.

They even helped me out a great deal when I had to go into the hospital a few years ago.

Thing is, they are Democrats. And until now, I didn't know how die hard Dem they are.

S called me tonight to tell me we can no longer be friends because of "whats in the White House".

I had a friend since 1999 do this to me in 2015, as she also turned out to be a die hard, brainwashed Dem.

With me being in my 60's now, and all of my family gone, as well as my other friends who've passed away in the last few years.......I only have 2 friends left now. One tries not to be political at all, and the other is a die hard Rep.

So, I'm kind of dizzy right now from our conversation.
Bascially S told me there's no way in hell she can get over me being a part of the "Nazi Party", although she could not explain to me what "Nazi" stuff she is talking about. She just states "read your history books again".

She said if I ever need help, she will be glad to help out, but we just cannot be friends anymore because she hates having to "hold it in" when around me. And I've NEVER told her to NOT "hold it in" when around me. In fact I've told her on multiple occassions to use me as a sounding board, or yell and scream if needed, she's not going to ever hurt my feelings. I understand her position and why she votes Dem, because she's explained it to me. And I've never cared, because I like them so much as people.

But she said she "can't get over it". So, I'm now down to 2 friends left. One lives in Canada and the other one has severe knee problems and can't get out much anymore.

God damn I despise this shit and getting old!!

I miss them already.

I sympathize with you. People like that can be found on either end of the political spectrum. I have had a friend since high school. He is an ardent Republican. I am a less ardent Democrat, but I always vote Democrat in general elections. What keeps us together are our political differences. We love political arguments the way others enjoy games of chess and tennis.

 

[Hector12]

This is actually common. I meet people all of the time. Nearly everyone over here is a Trump-hater. It's crazy because this isn't even in the US.

When someone disagrees with me politically, I want to say, "That's wrong!"

I try to ask, "Why do you feel that way?"

I have learned to respect opinions based on experiences I have not had.

 

[GLASNOST]

This is actually common. I meet people all of the time. Nearly everyone over here is a Trump-hater. It's crazy because this isn't even in the US..

When someone disagrees with me politically,..... I try to ask, "Why do you feel that way?"

I do the same as you. The answers I usually get are "He's a Nazi" or "He wants to destroy Democracy" and the last answer I got was "He's ugly"! Can you believe it? She actually said that! But I know what they are really thinking ...... "He's not a woman." My country (a feminist country) wants women to lead every nation in the world and they don't care how incompetent they are.

 

[initforme]

I have not heard of conservatives or Republicans ditching friends and family because they are democrats.

Have you?

In fact, Trump embraced former democrats and RFK who is not even a Republican.

There are fringes on both sides not just one. Be honest.

 

[GLASNOST]

I have learned to respect opinions ......

If you want a laugh or get a major headache then watch a couple of these videos.

 

[Votto]

There are fringes on both sides not just one. Be honest.

Sure, but the fringe in the DNC has gone mainstream.

I realized this after the attempted assassination of Justice Kavanaugh on the Supreme Court. Any time a high ranking Federal individual encounters anything like that, there is always a strong response from both parties to condemn it, like when the Bernie Sanders groupie tried to assassinate the entire GOP at a charity baseball game. Bernie immediatly condemned him and the assassination attempt.

However, with Kavanaugh it was crickets. Not one member of the DNC condemned the attack. It was at that point when I realized, something horrible had changed within the DNC.

The loon fringe has taken over.

In fact, 1/3 of democrats polled said they wished Trump had been assassinated

My guess is that those numbers are higher now.

And look at the guy who shot dead the CEO in New York. The Left has given him half a million dollars in a go fund me account.

The Left have lost their marbles.

 

[Hector12]

God damn I despise this shit and getting old!!

I would like to be young. I would not like to be the way I was when I was young. I am in better mental health. I have learned from my mistakes, and become a more pleasant person to be around.

 

[Zincwarrior]

Meh, I found out who my real friends were on my first moving day.

Sorta went like this:

He said "Uh, let me go and ask my wife"
He come out of the house
I could see in his face
I knowed it was "no"
He said "I don't know man, ah she kinda funny, an' all"
I said "I know, everybody funny, now you funny too"

There no atheists in foxholes and no friends on moving day.

 

[GLASNOST]

There are fringes on both sides not just one. .

Sure, but the fringe in the DNC has gone mainstream.

And that's the problem.

The Left have lost their marbles.

Well OK, two problems.

 

[GLASNOST]

I would like to be young. I would not like to be the way I was when I was young. I am in better mental health. I have learned from my mistakes, and become a more pleasant person to be around.

Yeah, I like being around you.

 

[Dogmaphobe]

The media has trained them to see anybody who does not march in complete lockstep with them as evil.

There is no reasoning with true believers, unfortunately.

 

[Road Runner]

Jeannie!!

Thats the weird thing, they aren't like that.
They both volunteer to help people in need..........anybody in need.
They donate their time to causes for animals, children, and the elderly.
If you ask them for help, they will show up.

They are not mean, vindictive, or "Karens" of any type.
They don't lie, cheat, steal, or take advantage of people.

But when it comes to politics, she's rock solid concrete on her stances.

She won't listen to anything else or anybody else.
She won't accept or look for help in understanding WHY she is this way on this subject.

They claim to have other friends who aren't Democrat, but changes the subject when I ask how she handles them.
So I don't know if they just cut themselves off from everybody that they were friends with, or I am an exception for some reason.

It still sounds like they just aren't worth your trouble and that was my point. In both of our cases we were both friends with people who we could never win with just in different ways. Yours was your politics, mine was I tried compromising with her so many times but NO she ALWAYS just had to have her own way and NEVER listened to me and NEVER compromised back when friendship is a two-way street and she was only there for me in the happy times otherwise she didn't want to get involved with me.


Point being we're both in a position who were friends with people who were never truly our friends in the first place so it's no big loss. I even tried to talk to her about this and I have been ignored. We both can do much better than those kinds of people though and sorry for my rant as I know this thread is actually about you but I've known this person for almost as long as you've known those so called friends of yours and I'm just trying to tell you believe me each day it gets easier and sooner or later you'll realize that you're much better off.