Yep, I agree... but we were a much younger nation then and we have matured - and we know how this whole 'being a country' thing works now.

But seriously, I see where you're coming from... maybe it is the idealism of the under 30s (albeit only just -

) but I genuinely think that states need more control over their own affairs. Many issues should be decided at state level.... but, yea, I agree that we need a strong federal government to oversee the fundamentals.
I would say we're more mature, but also larger, more diverse and more complex as a nation than we were 150 or 200 years ago. All of these factors contributing to the ease (or lack thereof) of governing.
If you think there should be a strong Federal government that is more than a functionary of the States and bound to their collective will, then you're a hybrid like most of us and not a true States Righter. So all that's left is arguing over the proper balance and degree of central vs. local control.
Great. Let's have a huge stand up, knock down fight to see who gets their way!
I'm certainly not for ALL the power to be at state level - but far more than exists now. Most day to day shit is for states to decide. I think each state should decide issues such as abortion for themselves. Let those who live there decide. In Ireland, abortion is illegal.... so Irish women wanting abortions come to the UK. Where it is, I might add, paid for by the health service. I can't tell you how offensive that is to me, as a Catholic. I support their right to have an abortion (although I find it morally reprehensible), but I should not be forced to pay for it.
About 80% of the laws we live our day to day lives under are already made at the State level, with the rest divided between local and Federal. With very few and limited exceptions all property law, family law, tort law, contract law, most transactional law in general, corporate law, and a slew of other areas of law is the province of the States. Most criminal law is State level. Landlord-tenant law, traffic laws, pretty much name a law that affects daily life and you have approximately a 4/5 chance it was made and is enforced at the State level.
The problem as some see it is that all of these laws are subject to Section 1 of the 14th Amendment, so they see the laws as Federal. They are not. They are merely subject to and must pass the test of providing Due Process and Equal Protection the same as any Federal law would have to do. I have no problem with this, it's part of the concept of Federal citizenship and uniform standards to ensure the incidents of Federal citizenship are provided uniformly to residents of all States. Things like abortion would fit under this category. Agree with Roe, disagree with Roe, but the principle by which it applies to the States itself is necessary and fundamental.
Then there are those areas of law that are in the State books but are passed according to a Federal mandate, such as entitlements, NCLB or laws governing things like interstate child support enforcement. The Feds will pass a law saying the States must design a program or process that fits certain standards, and the States must deliver. What I have an issue with is when the Feds tell the States they must pass a law, but fail to provide funds to maintain the program or structure created by that law. In other words, unfunded mandates. These are the biggest problem, IMO.
Edit: What you're talking about in the UK is something that does not happen here. First, we do not have a public health service and Medicaid is barred from paying for elective abortion. Second, they do not have a layered Federal system like ours. It's a very different legal and governmental structure, with more central control than we have in the US. They do not have a single written constitution, or an equivalent of the 14th Amendment in the US. Comparing the US to the UK in more than the most general terms is sort of apples to oranges.