Bullshit. First of all thats not what homophobia means. Secondly, there are plenty of people who are afraid of gays, and there are plenty of people who hate them. There are plenty of people who are intolerant, and plenty of people who dislike them. If you don't see this, you must be living in a box. See Matthew Shepard for a particularly disturbing instance of hatred of gays being manifested.
Yes, they demand they be accepted and tolerated. They don't give a shit if you like them or not, they just want to be left the **** alone and provided the right to marry who they love, just as you are given. Who cares about the biological norm?