What Democrats get wrong is the need to socialize and normalize children. It is part of parenting that is partly farmed out to the public schools. Children are to be taught civil norms and patriotism. If, as adults, they choose to reject those norms, that is everyone's right; same for patriotism. If it doesn't work for you, you can become a Democrat.
But failing to teach and reinforce norms is a failure of parenting.
One of the norms of our civil society is tolerance for those who are different from you and your tribe, but Transvestite Story Hour is not teaching norms; it is teaching embracement of abnormal behavior and culture.
One of the residual effects of the Vietnam War is that Academe has been infected with a culture that hates America, initiated by the millions of draft-dodgers who went to, and stayed in, college in order to avoid serving their country. This took Academe from a place that was definitely liberal-biased, to a monochromatic Leftist paradise, where it remains today.
This is why parents of school-age children have to constantly battle to prevent their children from being indoctrinated into socialist nihilist bullshit. And from all indications, "we" are losing.
Glad I won't live long enough to see how it all turns out.