Boys Are Broken

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In response to this week’s school shooting in Parkland, Florida, a man named Michael Ian Black, whom I’ve never heard of but who’s apparently an actor and comedian, invited a “conversation” on Twitter that began with the following statement: “Deeper even than the gun problem is this: boys are broken.”

This is an absolutely, 100 percent true statement.

Mr. Black is correct that boys are broken. But they're not broken as a result of being cavemen who haven’t “evolved” the way women have. They’re broken for another reason.

They are fatherless.

The solution to male violence is not to spout off drivel about the evils of masculinity. Masculinity, channeled well, is the reason assistant football coach Aaron Feis died this week. Feis shielded students from bullets by pushing them inside a classroom.

Broken homes, or homes without a physically and emotionally present mother and father, are the cause of most of society’s ills. “Unstable homes produce unstable children,” writes Peter Hasson at The Federalist.

He adds, “On CNN’s list of the “27 Deadliest Mass Shootings In U.S. History,” seven of those shootings were committed by young males since 2005. Of the seven, only one—Virginia Tech shooter Seung-Hui Cho—was raised by his biological father throughout childhood.”

Life for Nikolas Cruz was no different. His adoptive father died when Cruz was very young, and his adoptive mother had a difficult time raising him.

America’s boys are in serious trouble. As Warren Farrell’s new book, The Boy Crisis, explains, boys are experiencing a crisis of education, a crisis of mental health (as in the case of Nikolas Cruz), a crisis of purpose. And at the root of it all is fatherlessness.

Indeed, there is a direct correlation between boys who grow up with absent fathers and boys who drop out of school, who drink, who do drugs, who become delinquent and who wind up in prison.

And who kill their classmates.

“We blame guns, violence in the media, violence in video games, and poor family values. Each is a plausible player,” Farrell noted in 2013 after the Newtown, Connecticut, shooting. “But our daughters live in the same homes, with the same access to the same guns, video games, and media, and are raised with the same family values. Our daughters are not killing. Our sons are.”

Farrell’s explanation about how masculinity can be a force for good or for evil is enormously instructive. “Without dads as role models, boys’ testosterone is not well channeled. The boy experiences a sense of purposelessness, a lack of boundary enforcement, rudderlessness, and often withdraws into video games and video porn. At worst, when boys’ testosterone is not well-channeled by an involved dad, boys become among the world’s most destructive forces. When boys’ testosterone is well channeled by an involved dad, boys become among the world’s most constructive forces.”

The solution to male violence is not to spout off drivel about the evils of masculinity. Masculinity, channeled well, is the reason assistant football coach Aaron Feis died this week. Feis shielded students from bullets by pushing them inside a classroom.

The same instinctual response occurred at an Aurora, Colorado, movie theatre in 2012, when three young men— Jon Blunk, Matt McQuinn and Alex Teves—died shielding their girlfriends.

To be sure, there will be those who’ll continue to blame masculinity and the NRA for the recent bout of school shootings. But amidst their chatter are voices of reason who know all too well, either from first-hand experience or because they’re simply paying attention, that the reason boys are broken goes far deeper than policies and politics—and requires us to look at things we’d rather not.

That’s hard. But harder still is waking up to the deaths of yet more innocent children. How many kids will have to die before we get it?

Suzanne Venker is the author of five books on marriage, feminism and gender politics. Her latest book is "The Alpha Female’s Guide to Men & Marriage: HOW LOVE WORKS."

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I think she nailed it.

 

[MarathonMike]

This is the same observation made by Denzel Washington and Samuel L Jackson. You have to create a lot of anger and pain to produce a Nikolas Cruz. That almost always starts in the home and with the parents or lack of parents, particularly the Father.

 

[TheOldSchool]

“Boys” are very quick to pass responsibility for heir actions for excises like being “fatherless.”

 

[MarathonMike]

“Boys” are very quick to pass responsibility for heir actions for excises like being “fatherless.”

The "boys" are not making excuses for themselves. Coming from unstable and often Fatherless homes is a common denominator for these Sociopaths.

 

[depotoo]

I read where the people he was staying with, said he was coddled. He didn’t even know how to work a microwave.

 

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Powerful! Florida Teacher Of The Year Responds To Florida Tragedy With Social Media Post, Immediately Goes Viral
By Lawrence Richard -
February 17, 2018

A post from middle school teacher Kelly Guthrie Raley is going viral on social media for what she said was a pressing issue to fix amid the recent school shooting in the Parkland, Florida area.
Raley, who is a sixth-grade language arts teacher, was awarded the Eustis Middle School Teacher of the Year honor last month for the 2017 to 2018 school year and in the post, she said the onus for preventing future attacks rests on good parenting.
“Okay, I’ll be the bad guy and say what no one else is brave enough to say, but wants to say,” Raley said in the now-viral post. “I’ll take all the criticism and attacks from everyone because you know what? I’m a teacher.”

The teacher said she enjoys teaching and “wouldn’t do anything else,” but understands her occupation puts her in a situation like the one which recently occurred in Parkland.
“Until we, as a country, are willing to get serious and talk about mental health issues, lack of available care for the mental health issues, lack of discipline in the home, horrendous lack of parental support when the schools are trying to control horrible behavior at school (oh no! Not my kid. What did you do to cause my kid to react that way?), lack of moral values, and yes, I’ll say it-violent video games that take away all sensitivity to any compassion for others’ lives, as well as reality TV that makes it commonplace for people to constantly scream up in each others’ faces and not value any other person but themselves, we will have a gun problem in school,” the sixth-grade language arts teacher wrote. “Our kids don’t understand the permanency of death anymore!!!”
Per Fox News:

Raley, who loves hunting and four-wheeling in her spare time, added that she grew up with guns in her home.
“But you know what? My parents NEVER supported any bad behavior from me,” Raley said.
She said when she began teaching 20 years ago, she never had to worry about calling a student’s parents and getting cussed out, told to go to hell, or threatened with a public shaming all because she was calling out their child’s behavior. Something, she said, has got to change.

“I was terrified of doing something bad at school, as I would have not had a life until I corrected the problem and straightened my a** out,” Raley wrote. “My parents invaded my life. They knew where I was all the time. They made me have a curfew. They made me wake them up when I got home. They made me respect their rules.”
The teacher challenged other parents to prioritize strict parenting, to teach their children respect, and to know everything about their own children.
“Parents: it’s time to step up!” Raley wrote. “Be the parent that actually gives a crap! Be the annoying mom that pries and knows what your kid is doing. STOP being their friend. They have enough “friends” at school. Be their parent.”

 

[petro]

Good points...been stating this for awhile.
Young males are simply checked out and disinterested when it comes to our educational system.

—and requires us to look at things we’d rather not

This sadly is not happening in our media, the usual focus on soundbites, platitudes and the continued demonization of the NRA.
Leftists will not alter this strategy as they would have to admit that many of their policies have lead to this crisis.
A sick culture breeds sick individuals .

 

[Bob Blaylock]

“Boys” are very quick to pass responsibility for heir actions for excises like being “fatherless.”

The "boys" are not making excuses for themselves. Coming from unstable and often Fatherless homes is a common denominator for these Sociopaths.

It was well understood, well before I was born, that “coming from a broken home” had a strong tendency to result in less favorable life outcomes. Today, as a society, there are many who intentionally create broken homes in which to bring and raise children, and those of us who point out that there is something wrong with this are condemned as “bigots”. As a society, we have rejected standards of sexualmorality, we've rejected the sanctity of marriage between a man and a woman, and the importance of families based on such marriage. We are reaping the consequences of this folly.

 

[MindWars]

What else would loons expect from a leftist, brainwashing, msm who indoctrinates as they go along just to bring down society weak minds fall for it , weak mind blame " men" , weak minds blame skin color, Weak minds never find the cause which lays right in front of them it's called Psychological warfare, and it's used on you sheep everyday.

BOYS aren't BROKEN the system is broken and and social justice morons keep going and going and goin........
Weak minds fail to see what other put before them and all they can say is " tin foil" it's hard to see what isn't physical for some.

Men Are Not Broken



FKN SOCIETY IS BROKEN and we have -USSIES who can't bare the site of a white chalk board, who can't bare being called a prick, or white, or pink, or they hare whites >............ SOCIAL JUSTICE works on idiots.

SAUL ALINSKY , CLINTON, OBAMA,... have all succeeded in brainwashing their herd of morons.