Being on disability and relationship

[AZrailwhale]

Im on disability but wish to get into a relationship.

Question: Should I hide the fact from potential partners? If not, how should I broach the topic?

Btw, I was using my bus pass, it was one of those special kind for the disabled folk, a guy saw and never talked to me again. So the stigma is real, hence the topic. Thanks.

Hiding it is stupid. Your new significant other will find out sooner or later. Better sooner before either of you make an attachment. If he/she is a decent person, your disability won’t matter. If not, better to find out early.

 

[BULLDOG]

People tend to avoid you, since you have schizophrenia...​

But at least you have each other.​

 

[Darkwind]

Thanks for the reply.

The actual honest truth is that I don't have a disability. I am on disability because I got hounded by the feds of my country to such a point that I was essentially broken, driven to half-insanity, which then qualified me for disability. But I don't actually have anything wrong with my head. Which was a big reason why I tried so hard to connect with men from the internet because they were the only ones who would know that. But that didn't seem to work very well, and I just want a man badly.

So how would I broach it with my new man? Seems like any way I try to put a spin on it, I end up making myself look bad. He: "Oh, so you are on disability even though you don't really have any mental illness". I am so screwed.

Are you from N. Korea or somewhere like that?

My concern is that you'd want to bury kimchi all over the yard!

 

[EvilCat Breath]

Why do you want a man that badly? Men can scent out desperation and run away. I don't know how they do it. It's like they just know.

 

[MayorQuimby]

Why do you want a man that badly?

I want a life-partner. I have been looking for my missing piece my entire life.

 

[EvilCat Breath]

I want a life-partner. I have been looking for my missing piece my entire life.

Oh my. This never goes well. Come to think of it, my roommate (for lack of a better word) was the same way. He very much wanted to be in a loving and permanent relationship. He imagined that the one with me was for better or for worse. That was what he thought.

 

[MayorQuimby]

Oh my. This never goes well. Come to think of it, my roommate (for lack of a better word) was the same way. He very much wanted to be in a loving and permanent relationship. He imagined that the one with me was for better or for worse. That was what he thought.

It can sometimes end badly, if the other person isn't thinking in terms of forever like one is.

Anyway, I have romance on my mind constantly, I fairly breathe it. I don't need a fairy tale ending but I do like the idea of finding that special someone and spending the rest of my life with him. Unfortunately for me, to most people, this isn't an attractive idea.

 

[EvilCat Breath]

It can sometimes end badly, if the other person isn't thinking in terms of forever like one is.

Anyway, I have romance on my mind constantly, I fairly breathe it. I don't need a fairy tale ending but I do like the idea of finding that special someone and spending the rest of my life with him. Unfortunately for me, to most people, this isn't an attractive idea.

No. It's not. The fastest way to find someone is not to need anyone. Then men will be crawling out of the woodwork for five minutes of your time.

 

[ChristisKing]

I did not laugh. Are you dyslexic or something?

I saw that you marked the OP with funny before but maybe that was a mistake and no I'm not dyslexic, but why should anybody hide who they really are as it just makes things worse in the end.

 

[john u]

Reminds me of that court decision Buck versus Bell. Bad, bad, bad decision, but that everlasting quote from Judge Oliver Wendell Holmes was funny. The clown in gown said...............................

"....three generations of imbeciles is enough."

 

[whitehall]

Im on disability but wish to get into a relationship.

Question: Should I hide the fact from potential partners? If not, how should I broach the topic?

Btw, I was using my bus pass, it was one of those special kind for the disabled folk, a guy saw and never talked to me again. So the stigma is real, hence the topic. Thanks.

Please don't turn the USMB into a support group for potential cyber sexual criminals.

 

[BULLDOG]

I want a life-partner. I have been looking for my missing piece my entire life.

You will never find someone if you have missing pieces. Find yourself first.