Be less judgemental

[task0778]

In my earlier years I was a judgemental person, looking down on others for what they said or did without considering the cause or consequences. You can cause a lot of harm or pain in so doing and mostly for no benefit to yourself or anybody else. Now, in my later years (76) I see the fault (mine) in that; true people do some strange things these days, sometimes it doesn't matter but sometimes it does and we point fingers and say 'what an idiot' or 'that was so wrong'. But I have come to realize that each of us is a product on our environment; we are all indoctrinated from birth with certain values, morals, principles, and habits that to others appear warped at best.

It seems to me that when a person says or does something that we don't like then we cast aspersions on their character without knowing how or why they said or did whatever it was. If it was harmful or illegal then they should pay the consequences for it, and that's fine. But I also think we should be considerate enough to withhold judgement until further information becomes known. And we are an intolerant people these days, moreso I think than in the past and that ain't a good thing.

The world we live in today is more isolated and divided than ever before, or so it seems. Clearly, the gov't cannot or will not do anything about that, not until forced to. So, it falls to us as individuals, if you want a better world for the next generation and those that follow then take the next step and work on being a better person yourself. I'm guessing the people around you will take notice and maybe follow your example. Isn't it worthwhile to be less of an asshole? Yeah, maybe it's fun sometimes but at what cost to others and what example are you setting?

At any rate, as we close out 2024, think about the kind of person you want to be. And then become that person. Be well everybody.

 

[1srelluc]

Fuck that noise...."Tolerance" is what got us "woke", pedos no end, and burnt cities.....Nope, I think I'll be even less tolerant towards those that want to push "tolerance" upon me.

 

[shockedcanadian]

In my earlier years I was a judgemental person, looking down on others for what they said or did without considering the cause or consequences. You can cause a lot of harm or pain in so doing and mostly for no benefit to yourself or anybody else. Now, in my later years (76) I see the fault (mine) in that; true people do some strange things these days, sometimes it doesn't matter but sometimes it does and we point fingers and say 'what an idiot' or 'that was so wrong'. But I have come to realize that each of us is a product on our environment; we are all indoctrinated from birth with certain values, morals, principles, and habits that to others appear warped at best.

It seems to me that when a person says or does something that we don't like then we cast aspersions on their character without knowing how or why they said or did whatever it was. If it was harmful or illegal then they should pay the consequences for it, and that's fine. But I also think we should be considerate enough to withhold judgement until further information becomes known. And we are an intolerant people these days, moreso I think than in the past and that ain't a good thing.

The world we live in today is more isolated and divided than ever before, or so it seems. Clearly, the gov't cannot or will not do anything about that, not until forced to. So, it falls to us as individuals, if you want a better world for the next generation and those that follow then take the next step and work on being a better person yourself. I'm guessing the people around you will take notice and maybe follow your example. Isn't it worthwhile to be less of an asshole? Yeah, maybe it's fun sometimes but at what cost to others and what example are you setting?

At any rate, as we close out 2024, think about the kind of person you want to be. And then become that person. Be well everybody.

Of course there are exceptions to the rule and some actions we can never allow or excuse blame for. However, one of my favourite quotes, and I am someone who had (has?) a very strong internal locus of control until I experienced what I did in Canada:

“Give me a dozen healthy infants, well-formed, and my own specified world to bring them up in and I’ll guarantee to take any one at random and train him to become any type of specialist I might select — doctor, lawyer, artist, merchant-chief and, yes, even beggar-man and thief, regardless of his talents, penchants, tendencies, abilities, vocations, and race of his ancestors.”


–John Watson, Behaviorism, 1930

 

[OhPleaseJustQuit]

Fuck that noise...."Tolerance" is what got us "woke", pedos no end, and burnt cities.....Nope, I think I'll be even less tolerant towards those that want to push "tolerance" upon me.

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This is such a hard one.

My God tells me to love my neighbor as I love myself.

Treat my neighbor as I want to be treated.

I can never imagine myself sexually assaulting a child, so I have no way to picture myself being tolerant of someone who would.

Intolerance is the sin I find myself most often taking into the confessional.


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[Blaster]

I say live and let live.

 

[MisterBeale]

Fuck that noise...."Tolerance" is what got us "woke", pedos no end, and burnt cities.....Nope, I think I'll be even less tolerant towards those that want to push "tolerance" upon me.

Actually, it's just the reverse.

Those indoctrinated, or who have taken a shine to the critical theory academic POV, have been the ones with the LEAST tolerance. It is they who have the most intolerance for traditional American culture.



If, indeed, all ascribed to the wisdom of the OP, than everyone, would be real Americans.

 

[1srelluc]

Actually, it's just the reverse.

Those indoctrinated, or who have taken a shine to the critical theory academic POV, have been the ones with the LEAST tolerance. It is they who have the most intolerance for traditional American culture.



If, indeed, all ascribed to the wisdom of the OP, than everyone, would be real Americans.

Negative, some were conditioned to accept the unacceptable and it did not start yesterday.

It was even veiled in comedy decades ago to accept faggotry in the USA.

How the Gay Agenda Took Over TV

Matt Baume’s new book explores the fascinating relationship between queer history and the American sitcom.

www.advocate.com

 

[1srelluc]

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This is such a hard one.

My God tells me to love my neighbor as I love myself.

Treat my neighbor as I want to be treated.

I can never imagine myself sexually assaulting a child, so I have no way to picture myself being tolerant of someone who would.

Intolerance is the sin I find myself most often taking into the confessional.


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Being agnostic, I just go with what makes sense to me.....God has not smited me to any great extent thus far so I suspect He is cool with it.

 

[OhPleaseJustQuit]

Being agnostic, I just go with what makes sense to me.....God has not smited me to any great extent thus far so I suspect He is cool with it.

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It's good to live in a country where we are free to have an opinion.

There! I've done my daily evangelizing.

Merry Christmas to you, my friend.


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[Votto]

In my earlier years I was a judgemental person, looking down on others for what they said or did without considering the cause or consequences. You can cause a lot of harm or pain in so doing and mostly for no benefit to yourself or anybody else. Now, in my later years (76) I see the fault (mine) in that; true people do some strange things these days, sometimes it doesn't matter but sometimes it does and we point fingers and say 'what an idiot' or 'that was so wrong'. But I have come to realize that each of us is a product on our environment; we are all indoctrinated from birth with certain values, morals, principles, and habits that to others appear warped at best.

It seems to me that when a person says or does something that we don't like then we cast aspersions on their character without knowing how or why they said or did whatever it was. If it was harmful or illegal then they should pay the consequences for it, and that's fine. But I also think we should be considerate enough to withhold judgement until further information becomes known. And we are an intolerant people these days, moreso I think than in the past and that ain't a good thing.

The world we live in today is more isolated and divided than ever before, or so it seems. Clearly, the gov't cannot or will not do anything about that, not until forced to. So, it falls to us as individuals, if you want a better world for the next generation and those that follow then take the next step and work on being a better person yourself. I'm guessing the people around you will take notice and maybe follow your example. Isn't it worthwhile to be less of an asshole? Yeah, maybe it's fun sometimes but at what cost to others and what example are you setting?

At any rate, as we close out 2024, think about the kind of person you want to be. And then become that person. Be well everybody.

You need to be less judgmental of people who are judgmental, that is what I think.

 

[Votto]

Fuck that noise...."Tolerance" is what got us "woke", pedos no end, and burnt cities.....Nope, I think I'll be even less tolerant towards those that want to push "tolerance" upon me.

Tolerance has come and gone. It was only needed to allow the Left to take over, now everyone else gets cancelled or worse.

 

[1srelluc]

Tolerance has come and gone. It was only needed to allow the Left to take over, now everyone else gets cancelled or worse.

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Damn, you would have to have a huge chin to even get as much of a chin weld on that rig.

 

[Oddball]

 

[DGS49]

I am a young 75, and my conclusion about life is not exactly, but close to, the opposite.

I am both educated and experienced, not only in my own life, but also in the countless people I have observed over the course of my life. And keep in mind that because of my advanced age, I have been able to observe not only the immediate impacts of life's choices, but how they play out in the long run. My conclusion is that one of the biggest problems in our culture is the FAILURE TO BE JUDGMENTAL. Indeed, the refusal to be judgmental is the worst characteristic of the political Left these days. When one of their lot comes up with some hair brained idea, or movement, or initiative, rather than looking at it objectively they take the position of "Well that's THEIR TRUTH." Bullshit. There is only one truth. The concept of "gender fluidity" is obviously the most poignant contemporary example, a concept that is utterly defeated by not only biology and history, but even the way it plays out TODAY.

In our society, people can live pretty much as they choose, as long as it does not harm innocents, and that's fine with me. Live the way you want to live, but don't push the falsehood that your bizarre lifestyle or life choice is "normal," desirable, or harmless, unless you have looked closely and objectively at the choice.

There is a particular drama playing out in my extended family right now, and it has resulted in a schism which I am unwilling to mend. My 16 y.o. niece fancies herself my nephew. She dresses, grooms, and acts in the way that she imagines boys act. I suspect that she does not wake up most mornings with an erection, as most 16 boys do, but no matter. Her family elected from the beginning to patronize her delusion; she is addressed with a male version of her name, and they take great pains to control her environment, lest she be confronted by someone who doesn't "get it," if you know what I mean. It was presumed that I would "call her out" in some rude fashion if we ever found ourselves in the same room, but I have no problem with her. It's her delusional parents that disappoint me. I don't know what chemical or medical steps have been taken to patronize her delusions, and I don't want to know.

Sorry. I guess I'm being judgmental. But I know for a fact that she will never have a child, get married, or even have an intimate relationship...and that is some serious business, seriouser than getting a tattoo, I dare say.

 

[Votto]

But I say that in a not so much judgmental way.

 

[toobfreak]

This is such a hard one.

That is just what she said last night.

Love and tolerance are fine, great, when not taken to the extreme of self-destruction!
Just imagine if Europe had said to turn the other cheek as Hitler came over the hill in 1938.
Some things you just cannot love or tolerate.

 

[MisterBeale]

 

[Anathema]

The world we live in today is more isolated and divided than ever before, or so it seems. Clearly, the gov't cannot or will not do anything about that, not until forced to. So, it falls to us as individuals, if you want a better world for the next generation and those that follow then take the next step and work on being a better person yourself. I'm guessing the people around you will take notice and maybe follow your example. Isn't it worthwhile to be less of an asshole? Yeah, maybe it's fun sometimes but at what cost to others and what example are you setting?

At any rate, as we close out 2024, think about the kind of person you want to be. And then become that person. Be well everybody.

The kind of person I want to be…. A grumpy old hermit ignored by the rest of society.

Unfortunately that’s not something I can become, for innumerable reasons. So instead I’m going to be a grimpy, nasty, SIB who hate the rest of the world and makes no bones about it.

 

[1srelluc]

The kind of person I want to be…. A grumpy old hermit ignored by the rest of society.

Unfortunately that’s not something I can become, for innumerable reasons. So instead I’m going to be a grimpy, nasty, SIB who hate the rest of the world and makes no bones about it.

I think that's called just being a dick.

 

[task0778]

If it was harmful or illegal then they should pay the consequences for it, and that's fine.

Some of us evidently didn't read this part, nor did they see the words 'mostly' and 'sometimes'. Obviously there are certain crimes for which we should not tolerate. No question about that. But there are also a vast number of other actions and speech for which we pass judgement because it differs from our own ideology. And that is foolish IMHO.