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[Bonzi]

No. (I have a black thumb!)

What's the last book that you read?

 

[Eaglewings]

The Koch brothers.

Are you going to retire where you are living now?

 

[Bonzi]

I hope not! No!

Are you retired? If not, do you know when you will be?

 

[Eaglewings]

Sorta a force retire, but I sell online and taking care of everyone can keep you busy at home/

Do you like your job?

 

[Bonzi]

I do. It's a bit boring. I wish I worked in an office with people I enjoy. That would not talk an distract me from my work............

What is your dream job?

 

[Eaglewings]

I do. It's a bit boring. I wish I worked in an office with people I enjoy. That would not talk an distract me from my work............

What is your dream job?

Just what I was doing..Addiction Counseling..but musician would have been cool too

Do you eat breakfast, Lunch and dinner?

 

[Bonzi]

I have a piece of bread and coffee in the morning (the bread only for my meds). Lunch, not anymore. Dinner, yes. My appetite has gone down over the last several months......

Would you consider yourself a tame, moderate or wild lover?

 

[QuickHitCurepon]

Wild, but my wife's tame so it evens out.

Do you usually satisfy your lover, and how can you tell?

 

[Bonzi]

I don't think so. I mean the job gets done, but, I'm sure I'm the worst he's ever had.
God knows why he stays with me. I was even gone for a while and he missed me. Go figure!

Do you think that's the "norm" in marriages? Man more wild than the wife?

 

[Bonzi]

Wild, but my wife's tame so it evens out.

Do you usually satisfy your lover, and how can you tell?

I have another question for you too... what does your Avatar signify?

 

[QuickHitCurepon]

I don't think so. I mean the job gets done, but, I'm sure I'm the worst he's ever had.
God knows why he stays with me. I was even gone for a while and he missed me. Go figure!

Do you think that's the "norm" in marriages? Man more wild than the wife?

Since men like to explore the world by themselves, when women simply cannot, men have more "spots" they want to go. Women already have their "spot."

Knowing where you want to go in general is not nearly as wild as finding new places. idk if that really makes a lot of sense but... lol

What are a few reasons why you are happy with your gender?

 

[QuickHitCurepon]

Wild, but my wife's tame so it evens out.

Do you usually satisfy your lover, and how can you tell?

I have another question for you too... what does your Avatar signify?

It used to be very easy to change your AV.

But when USMB started making a lot of upgrades, they made it necessary to use your browser to upload a photo. I've tried many times but never could figure out how to do that. I am seriously technically and mechanically challenged so I'm stuck with this AV as long as it lasts. I could ask for help but I like this one anyway.

It was just a coincidence that my favorite pic for an AV since I found it was the one I had when they made the upgrades.

 

[Bonzi]

I don't think so. I mean the job gets done, but, I'm sure I'm the worst he's ever had.
God knows why he stays with me. I was even gone for a while and he missed me. Go figure!

Do you think that's the "norm" in marriages? Man more wild than the wife?

Since men like to explore the world by themselves, when women simply cannot, men have more "spots" they want to go. Women already have their "spot."

Knowing where you want to go in general is not nearly as wild as finding new places. idk if that really makes a lot of sense but... lol

What are a few reasons why you are happy with your gender?

I like men because they seem to be, by and large, more honest. And nice. Maybe they are just nice because they want to have sex with you, but, I like people being nice to me and being interested in me. I'm a hard person (in real life) to reach and get to know (it's true on line as well, I'm really talkative "here" in the open, but if I get person with someone, things normally get ugly....) - so anyway, visually, I find women attractive, and have tried it twice, but, I did not enjoy it and never really wanted to be around them. I have always been more drawn to men. And I absolutely love ******* for the first time with a man. I guess I'm backward, I feel much freer sexually in the beginning vs. as time goes on... I don't know why that is....

I assume you are married to a woman based on your question? Correct?

 

[QuickHitCurepon]

I assume you are married to a woman based on your question? Correct?

Since 1981, I have been friends with a guy whose father was director of the VA Hospital here in Palo Alto, my hometown and where I lived almost 20 years of my adult life.

A year later, my friend, his father, some others, and I went on a rafting trip down the American River. They had released a lot of water from a dam upstream, and the river was running very high. On the first big rapid, we all got thrown out of the raft. I got thrown backwards, and my left arm got stuck on something in the boat, pulling my shoulder out all the way. I do not remember being able to swim much with my shoulder like that but somehow was directly pushed by the current to the side. I have always thought how I could have easily gone downstream and drowned, while everyone was occupied getting themselves back to the shore. I also almost drowned on the Snake River in Hells Canyon when I was a teenager, but that is another story.

It wasn't that bad once out of the water, because my friend's father came right over and put my shoulder back in, and I still enjoyed the rest of the trip almost as nothing had happened.

A week or so later I was alone at the mansion where my friend lived with his father, and a friend of the family, who was also a doctor, was caretaker there. I always really enjoyed the dinners he made for us. I was in the upstairs bedroom waiting for my friend, when the caretaker came in. He asked me if I wanted him to help me with my shoulder and lie down on the bed. Knowing he was a doctor, I agreed, but once I was down, he went right into giving me a rimjob. I did not have any willpower to protest and let it happen. He gave me oral sex, and without any feeling I quickly finished, and that was it. I have always considered it rape, but it did not mean a lot to me and has never bothered me very much. The doctor who raped me died about 7 years ago of an AIDS related disease.

I was never sorry I did not just join in with the doctor and have never had any intimate sexual feelings towards a man.

Yes, my wife is a woman.

Three times in my life, I have been offered oral sex. The first time I was in an adult bookstore watching porn in a stall, and a note slid in under the door, saying, "Suck it?" I quickly left and have since always watched my porn at home.

The third time I was getting drunk with a visitor at a small party at my Gilroy, CA house. We had gotten in a conversation of how I couldn't fight and how I have always been very skinny. He insisted to teach me to fight and kept making me hit him. It turned out to be a lot of fun. Later on and with me more drunk, we decided to go for a drive, and he drove my car to a really interesting place in the hills of Gilroy. When we got there he asked me if I wanted to suck his dick. I declined, and he did not seem to care. I was lucky though. I had not taken my jacket, and he parked there a long time late at night, and shortly, it was freezing in my t-shirt. I had to get the car cover out of my trunk, or I would have froze to death.

The second time, I was down the trail off Vista Point on Highway 9. I had poison oak from a trip there a few days earlier. I was breaking off branches so I could see better when I went there often and got carried away the last time and broke off a few vines, not knowing poison oak climbs the trees in vines. So next trip, I was there with poison oak, and a guy came walking up to me. I went there many times, and it was super extremely rare for anyone to come out there. I did almost get hit by a mountain biker who came barreling through at like 30 MPH. Anyway, this guy comes up to me and asks if I want to give him head. I said no and walked back to my car. I thought for sure he could see I had poison oak, and why would he want me to do that then when he could get my rash.

No, I really would hate to get close to a man, unless I had no choice.

Due to depression and not wanting to do anything else and taking a good amount of caffeine pills, I used to drive slowly every day for several years in the late 90's to mid-00's. The only places I drove fast were in the mountains, and I avoided the freeways. The slow pace gave me tremendous peace, and my cars were big, and I didn't worry about anything. I would make the trip last 9-10 hours. My favorite spots were Ghiradelli Square and Portsmouth Square in San Francisco. When I was a student at the Defense Language Institute Foreign Language Center (www.dliflc.org), we went on a field trip to Chinatown, and I had very fond memories of me and a friend, when we stopped to chat at Portsmouth. I had graduated top of my Air Force Chinese class in 1979. I also went often for a period of time to the museum at the Presidio of Monterey and would stand for two hours on the top of the hill, beside the Sloat monument, which marks when John Drake Sloat declared California part of the U.S.

sloat monument pic - Bing images

But I would most often go to my other favorite spots, the wharf in Santa Cruz, the Japanese Friendship Garden in San Jose, Vasona Lake in Los Gatos and Twin Peaks in San Francisco. I would always stay at each place for exactly two hours. Many times also I would go to much farther away places or just drive non-stop, making the trip last 12-13 hours and very often in the middle of the night. I had thousands of CD's and cassettes and couldn't drive without them.

What are a few minor problems you have had with sex?

 

[Bonzi]

Wow that's a lot of information to digest. I will have to read it again later. I wonder why men hit on you? Do you have any idea why that might be? I've never had a woman overtly hit on me. But I think men are more aggressive.

I think that I get frustrated easily. And I'm over aware of what is going on, BUT, that doesn't happen until the relationship "settles down" - I start analyzing things. When it's new and exciting, I don't think about that stuff. I just go with the passion and the newness of the relationship, and let it go. I'm not sure why I start to analyze things as the relationship progresses. I don't even have to climax to feel like I have had great sex. I guess that is strange.

 

[QuickHitCurepon]

Wow that's a lot of information to digest. I will have to read it again later. I wonder why men hit on you? Do you have any idea why that might be? I've never had a woman overtly hit on me. But I think men are more aggressive.

I was working at True Value in Chicago in 1989 as a stock clerk, and while we were up against the back wall of the store, he gave me the dirtiest look, and I thought the same thing. I honestly don't know. There aren't too many guys 6'2" and skinny like me, and maybe they dream I'm a girl. I couldn't begin to tell you. I was a fat baby, but when I got to be around 4 or 5, I became lean forevermore. It doesn't matter what I do, I'll never put on weight. I don't pay attention. That's me.

Would you for some unforseen reason wear a disguise and why?

 

[Bonzi]

I guess if I got really obsessed with someone and wanted to spy on them, or maybe see if girls would hit on me as a man?
Might be fun to do.

Regarding being obsessed or jealous/suspicious - I got super jealous with guys in the past, so, I have to really keep myself emotionally distant because I can't seem to control that aspect of my emotions - I've been to various counselors yadda yadda but still, no clue. Just part of who I am I guess. I'm comfortable with my husband, I was jealous with him at first, but he wouldn't let me get away with it, so, in time, it just passed and he has been faithful and I to him. So, I'm happy I don't have to deal with that anymore....

You mentioned something about culture organizations. One was Chinese and the other Japanese. Are you either? Both (mix)?

 

[QuickHitCurepon]

I guess if I got really obsessed with someone and wanted to spy on them, or maybe see if girls would hit on me as a man?
Might be fun to do.

I would do it if I had the support, but it is just a dream since I have none.

You mentioned something about culture organizations. One was Chinese and the other Japanese. Are you either? Both (mix)?

I really shouldn't say, but besides my primary job IMO in the Air Force was to be a diplomat. I don't play Chinese vs. Japanese. They did that all too well during WWII. The native teachers at DLIFLC knew how to convey their culture and prodded us into the future, with the humblest of design. I took it to heart from the beginning, and have been hooked ever since. A good thing cannot be denied.

 

[Bonzi]

I guess if I got really obsessed with someone and wanted to spy on them, or maybe see if girls would hit on me as a man?
Might be fun to do.

I would do it if I had the support, but it is just a dream since I have none.

You mentioned something about culture organizations. One was Chinese and the other Japanese. Are you either? Both (mix)?

I really shouldn't say, but besides my primary job IMO in the Air Force was to be a diplomat. I don't play Chinese vs. Japanese. They did that all too well during WWII. The native teachers at DLIFLC knew how to convey their culture and prodded us into the future, with the humblest of design. I took it to heart from the beginning, and have been hooked ever since. A good thing cannot be denied.

Okay (finally found a taboo question!) - understand however...

SO - can you say what you would disguise yourself as if you could? And why? What would you do?

 

[QuickHitCurepon]

Okay (finally found a taboo question!) - understand however...

No, it was great question. I just didn't want confusion about my race while I explained that stuff.

I am directly related to the famous pilgrim John Howland on my dad's mother's side and directly related to a famous English poet on my dad's side. My mom's family is Jewish and from Austria.