Nope. The latter is a tantrum. The pseudo-legal equivilant of overturning a chessboard because you don't like the outcome of the game.
The former is equal protection under the law. Its cheaper, faster, simpler, and far more effective. By every measure, it works better.
Nope. Gays already have equal protection under the law. Marriage is a union between a man and a woman.
As Loving V. Virginia demonstrated, the restrictions placed on marriage have meet constitutional muster as well.
The Loving v. Virginia decision was about racial discrimination. The 14th Amendment clearly bars discrimination based on race. It says nothing about sexual orientation or gender.
Using that to support the case for ghey marriage is absurd.
And same sex marriage bans fail those standards utterly. They have no rational purpose, they don't meet any valid legislative end, and they don't serve a compelling state interest.
They just 'are'. And that's not good enough.
They do have a rational purpose, a valid legislative purpose and a compelling state interest: promoting the raising of healthy well adjusted children. Gay marriage diverts legal and social resources away from that purpose.
Which might explain why in 44 of 46 cases heard by the federal judiciary, gay marriage bans were overturned.
Venue shopping and activist liberal judges explain that result. One thing you can't claim is that your desired ends were achieved democratically.