Anger... you agree with this?

[Bonzi]

What causes anger? In reality, the answer could be "nothing." We might think that a rude driver or unfair criticism or a friend's betrayal angers us, but the anger is actually our own doing. It is our response that creates the anger.
Many factors can stimulate anger. Behavior we learned in childhood, a stressful work environment, poor health or medicines we take can cause our temper to flare more easily … but only if we allow them to.
Consider this …
When someone insults us or treats us badly, we can choose how to respond. If we have feelings of anger, we can choose how to express that anger. God has given us free will to control our feelings, thoughts and actions. Will we choose unkind words or finding a way to "get even" … or will we overlook and forgive? It's our choice. No matter what our background or the current circumstances, we are responsible for our own behavior.

I'm not sure I totally agree with this. I think sometimes something happens and the involuntary emotion is anger.... no? I agree what you DO with the anger, however, is a choice.....

 

[Dante]

What causes anger? In reality, the answer could be "nothing." We might think that a rude driver or unfair criticism or a friend's betrayal angers us, but the anger is actually our own doing. It is our response that creates the anger.
Many factors can stimulate anger. Behavior we learned in childhood, a stressful work environment, poor health or medicines we take can cause our temper to flare more easily … but only if we allow them to.
Consider this …
When someone insults us or treats us badly, we can choose how to respond. If we have feelings of anger, we can choose how to express that anger. God has given us free will to control our feelings, thoughts and actions. Will we choose unkind words or finding a way to "get even" … or will we overlook and forgive? It's our choice. No matter what our background or the current circumstances, we are responsible for our own behavior.

I'm not sure I totally agree with this. I think sometimes something happens and the involuntary emotion is anger.... no? I agree what you DO with the anger, however, is a choice.....

Stop pissing me off.

no, seriously...


STOP PISSING ME OFF!

 

[September]

Discipline. Everyone feels emotion, but not everyone allows their emotion to overcome and control them.

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[Derideo_Te]

Some people live in a constant state of anger and hatred. It is what keeps them going. By being angry all the time they never have to stop and think because anger is emoting, not thinking.

And the reason they don't want to think is because that might remove the cause of their anger, which in many cases is themselves. They are to blame for their own constant state of anger but they will always blame others for their anger because that is their nature.

Yes, people like that can anger us. So can innocuous things. Personally speaking, being lied to makes me angry but I have learned to channel it into constructive ways to respond.

We all feel emotions, including anger, from time to time and we must deal with it in some manner so that it doesn't end up controlling ourselves.

Laughter, even at ourselves, can be a great way to diffuse the angry emotion within ourselves while at the same time it can actually increase the anger in others if they perceive others to be laughing at them. Sobeit! We can only deal with ourselves, we cannot control others. They have to control themselves.

DT

 

[Delta4Embassy]

What causes anger? In reality, the answer could be "nothing." We might think that a rude driver or unfair criticism or a friend's betrayal angers us, but the anger is actually our own doing. It is our response that creates the anger.
Many factors can stimulate anger. Behavior we learned in childhood, a stressful work environment, poor health or medicines we take can cause our temper to flare more easily … but only if we allow them to.
Consider this …
When someone insults us or treats us badly, we can choose how to respond. If we have feelings of anger, we can choose how to express that anger. God has given us free will to control our feelings, thoughts and actions. Will we choose unkind words or finding a way to "get even" … or will we overlook and forgive? It's our choice. No matter what our background or the current circumstances, we are responsible for our own behavior.

I'm not sure I totally agree with this. I think sometimes something happens and the involuntary emotion is anger.... no? I agree what you DO with the anger, however, is a choice.....

Think Yoda nailed it in episode 1:

"Fear leads to the Dark Side. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering."

(stares ahead a moment trying to wiggle his ears like Yoda, but doesn't seem to manage it.)

 

[Dante]

Some people live in a constant state of anger and hatred. It is what keeps them going. By being angry all the time they never have to stop and think because anger is emoting, not thinking.

...

Laughter, even at ourselves, can be a great way to diffuse the angry emotion within ourselves while at the same time it can actually increase the anger in others if they perceive others to be laughing at them. Sobeit! We can only deal with ourselves, we cannot control others. They have to control themselves.

DT

Ha, ha, ha, ha, you stupid shit!

Wow! feels great.

 

[Bonzi]

Some people live in a constant state of anger and hatred. It is what keeps them going. By being angry all the time they never have to stop and think because anger is emoting, not thinking.

And the reason they don't want to think is because that might remove the cause of their anger, which in many cases is themselves. They are to blame for their own constant state of anger but they will always blame others for their anger because that is their nature.

Yes, people like that can anger us. So can innocuous things. Personally speaking, being lied to makes me angry but I have learned to channel it into constructive ways to respond.

We all feel emotions, including anger, from time to time and we must deal with it in some manner so that it doesn't end up controlling ourselves.

Laughter, even at ourselves, can be a great way to diffuse the angry emotion within ourselves while at the same time it can actually increase the anger in others if they perceive others to be laughing at them. Sobeit! We can only deal with ourselves, we cannot control others. They have to control themselves.

DT

I've been thinking about you lately.... maybe you have been around and I have just missed you.... glad to see you either way......

 

[Bonzi]

What causes anger? In reality, the answer could be "nothing." We might think that a rude driver or unfair criticism or a friend's betrayal angers us, but the anger is actually our own doing. It is our response that creates the anger.
Many factors can stimulate anger. Behavior we learned in childhood, a stressful work environment, poor health or medicines we take can cause our temper to flare more easily … but only if we allow them to.
Consider this …
When someone insults us or treats us badly, we can choose how to respond. If we have feelings of anger, we can choose how to express that anger. God has given us free will to control our feelings, thoughts and actions. Will we choose unkind words or finding a way to "get even" … or will we overlook and forgive? It's our choice. No matter what our background or the current circumstances, we are responsible for our own behavior.

I'm not sure I totally agree with this. I think sometimes something happens and the involuntary emotion is anger.... no? I agree what you DO with the anger, however, is a choice.....

Stop pissing me off.

no, seriously...


STOP PISSING ME OFF!

but... it's what I do!!!

 

[Bonzi]

Discipline. Everyone feels emotion, but not everyone allows their emotion to overcome and control them.

​

difference between feeling anger (maybe it is fear) - let's try to find an exception.....

Say I get angry because I feel like someone is not listening to me.
What's the fear? Fear of rejection? Being ignored?

Can you think of an instance where anger is NOT born of fear...?

 

[Bonzi]

What causes anger? In reality, the answer could be "nothing." We might think that a rude driver or unfair criticism or a friend's betrayal angers us, but the anger is actually our own doing. It is our response that creates the anger.
Many factors can stimulate anger. Behavior we learned in childhood, a stressful work environment, poor health or medicines we take can cause our temper to flare more easily … but only if we allow them to.
Consider this …
When someone insults us or treats us badly, we can choose how to respond. If we have feelings of anger, we can choose how to express that anger. God has given us free will to control our feelings, thoughts and actions. Will we choose unkind words or finding a way to "get even" … or will we overlook and forgive? It's our choice. No matter what our background or the current circumstances, we are responsible for our own behavior.

I'm not sure I totally agree with this. I think sometimes something happens and the involuntary emotion is anger.... no? I agree what you DO with the anger, however, is a choice.....

Think Yoda nailed it in episode 1:

"Fear leads to the Dark Side. Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering."

(stares ahead a moment trying to wiggle his ears like Yoda, but doesn't seem to manage it.)

.... so what causes the fear....?

 

[Derideo_Te]

Some people live in a constant state of anger and hatred. It is what keeps them going. By being angry all the time they never have to stop and think because anger is emoting, not thinking.

...

Laughter, even at ourselves, can be a great way to diffuse the angry emotion within ourselves while at the same time it can actually increase the anger in others if they perceive others to be laughing at them. Sobeit! We can only deal with ourselves, we cannot control others. They have to control themselves.

DT

Ha, ha, ha, ha, you stupid shit!

Wow! feels great.

Derideo Te in Latin means I laugh at you!

What does Dan Te mean?

 

[DGS49]

Things that most frequently make me angry:

(1) My own failings at sports (bad golf or bowling or tennis shot); I'm angry because I have failed to do what I am capable of doing, even though trying my best.

(2) People being rude and inconsiderate - often while driving, but also in many other circumstances.

(3) People saying and doing stupid things emphatically, based on ignorance of facts or circumstances.

In all of these cases, it is possible to suppress my immediate reaction, and often that is the better course. But to say that one can control the immediate visceral reaction, I don't believe that for a second. Sounds to me like a recipe for hypertension or ulcers.

Parenthetically, some people get angry in the face of disagreements - often about political subjects - but going to law school cured me of that. In fact, sometimes in social situations I "argue" for a point that I don't believe or even care about, just to promote animated discussions - because I think it's fun. But some people DON'T think it's fun and conclude that I'm just being an asshole. My wife is one of those people.

Sigh.

 

[Bonzi]

Things that most frequently make me angry:

(1) My own failings at sports (bad golf or bowling or tennis shot); I'm angry because I have failed to do what I am capable of doing, even though trying my best.

(2) People being rude and inconsiderate - often while driving, but also in many other circumstances.

(3) People saying and doing stupid things emphatically, based on ignorance of facts or circumstances.

In all of these cases, it is possible to suppress my immediate reaction, and often that is the better course. But to say that one can control the immediate visceral reaction, I don't believe that for a second. Sounds to me like a recipe for hypertension or ulcers.

Parenthetically, some people get angry in the face of disagreements - often about political subjects - but going to law school cured me of that. In fact, sometimes in social situations I "argue" for a point that I don't believe or even care about, just to promote animated discussions - because I think it's fun. But some people DON'T think it's fun and conclude that I'm just being an asshole. My wife is one of those people.

Sigh.

People debate/argue differently.
I like to discuss and consider everything.
Hubby gets very emotional and will get personal if I make too many good points! Hard to have a discussion when people get defensive.... it's ok to disagree.... or be wrong - but I guess some people just can't handle that.

 

[Iceweasel]

Don't get mad. Get even.