Well, I took the opposite approach. I grew up pretty well off. Well, not when I was young. But by the time I was in my teens Pops was making some pretty good money. We lived in the "rich" development. But Pops was working all the time. I missed the time that I had with him when we weren't so well off, and I was pretty vocal about it as a kid. I made a commitment that I would never put money if front of my kids.
So, I was married twice and had three kids with each wife. Yeah, I lived in poverty most of that time. I took full advantage of every government program, from food stamps to Pell grants. Oh, I worked, sometimes multiple jobs. But I pretty much maxed out the EITC every year. And I never missed a ball game, a parent teacher conference, or even a skinned knee. And my wives, they all stayed at home with the kids.
So, six kids. Granted, one of them is disabled, that is another story. But the oldest, a doctor, physical therapist. Next, a realtor, knocking down sis figures. The third, disabled, like I said, and special circumstances there. That was the three daughters with my first wife. Second wife, three sons. Oldest, now a Phd candidate in Mechanical Engineering. Six figure income, half million dollars net worth at 25. Middle son, six figure income in sales, college graduate. Third son, will graduate with a degree in Philosophy, currently working at UPS, slated to enter the Marine corps as an officer in the summer. Looking to enter the JAG program.
Here is the thing, four of my six children pay more in federal income taxes every year that I ever got in assistance. In the next year, it is going to be five of six. I believe I invested the government's money and it is paying off big time. And me, well lets just say Christmas is my favorite time of year. Those kids all give credit to "Pops", who was always there, always pushing them, and to this day, is a mere phone call away from listening to their problems, helping them work through them, and supporting them. I am not saying every parent is like me, but what I am saying is that the government programs used as assistance can certainly pay dividends under the right circumstances.