Chasing leaves blowing in the wind. We need to restore the built in fixes to our Federalist System, restore the light touch it was intended to be. For the Control freaks, Totalitarianism Bad! Tyranny Bad!
The answer is, as always, balance. There has to be a unifying force in order to keep the States and their competing interests from tearing the whole apart. There also needs to be a power larger than the States to correct their abuses when they take place. There must be, as the early Confederates found out, a single head of State other nations can look to with confidence when conducting foreign policy. A strong central government is necessary to any nation as large and diverse as the US.
Strong does not mean totalitarian though. The false dichotomy of Confederacy or Totalitarian ignores an incredibly wide selection of shades of gray. That gray is what is set up in the system, and what we need to be focused on.
But it sure looks nice on a rally sign and a bumper sticker, doesn't it?