Hey blu - are you a teacher too?
I've been teaching for 12 years. 24 Parent/Teacher conferences and 12 Back to School Nights. I've met approx. 12 parents in 12 years. Some years I've met none.
When I call home and say "Johnny hasn't done any homework" the usual response is "I know. Johnny doesn't like homework".
We do the best we can with what got to work with. It's like banging your head against the wall sometimes.
Foreign students cannot believe how many of these students take their education for granted. I wish we could instill that in our American kids.
I am not a teacher officially, but I live with my gf and her son, and we work with him at least an hour a day after his hw on stuff outside his classroom, and I know many people I grew up whose parents were like you said and never made them do hw or take school serious and now they are working for minimum wage.
also, its very true on foreign students, I went to a college where a bunch of foreign students go, and they knew all the stuff we did the first two years of college as they covered it in their version of high school. the average american doesn't value education at all and woudl rather idolize sports figures or other entertainers. In a proper world, scientists and other highly educated people would be idolized instead of jocks and hollywood losers.