when certain thoughts and beliefs are punished by the government, freedom has been lost. the USA would be no better than a muslim country run by sharia law---------------believe what we tell you or you will be killed or jailed.
This is ridiculous hyperbole.
No thoughts or beliefs are being 'punished' by the 'government,' no one is seeking to compel anyone to believe anything he doesn't wish to believe in, nor will anyone be 'jailed' or 'killed' for believing what he does, consequently no freedoms have been 'lost' - it's delusional to perceive such a thing.
gays can have their unions legalized and sanctioned without calling them a marriage. Calling them a marriage goes against the beliefs of a vast majority of the inhabitants of planet earth.
You have no authority to dictate to gay Americans what they 'can' or 'cannot' have.
The contract law that same-sex couples are eligible to participate in is called marriage, it's the same marriage law that opposite-sex couples participate in. There can be only one marriage (contract) law, it would be in violation of the 14th Amendment to contrive 'separate but equal' marriage law for same-sex couples simply to appease your fear, ignorance, and hatred of gay Americans.
We are a Constitutional Republic, not a democracy, that a given majority might be hostile to the civil rights of gay Americans is not justification to indeed deny same-sex couples their right to equal protection of the law, allowing them to enter into marriage contracts.
You're at liberty to hate gay Americans, and you may do so with impunity; you are not at liberty, however, to seek to codify your hatred of gay Americans, such as advocating that they be denied access to marriage law they're eligible to participate in.