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Here--I'll make it easy for ya. Just explain that quote.
That quote? I take it to mean a woman's heart is pretty much the same from one to another. And I agree, generally speaking.
He then goes on to describe a woman's heart as the peak of everything, including wisdom. I would say intuition, but okay.
The very essence of every woman's heart is the peak of wisdom, the peak of inspiration, the peak of sexual desirability, the peak of soothing, healing love. The peak of everything. But it's protected, for good reason, by a series of concentric walls.
He does not tell us the reason it is protected, but I would suggest it is self-preservation. He continues, again in the vocabulary of religion:
To move inwardly from one wall to the next requires that you intensify your capacity to devotion, and as you do so, you are rewarded with Grace.
Here is where his "worship" comes in to play, and I can't go that far with him. I'd call it appreciation. Others might say commitment. But here is the key for me:
This is not something you can negotiate verbally with a woman. She doesn't even know consciously how to open those gates herself. They are opened magically and invisibly by the keys of worship.
I would say opened by the love of a man they trust, but yes. True. If a woman isn't comfortable with the man they're with, they will be on constant guard around him. No news there, right?
He writes then about the stages of getting to know a woman and of earning her trust. How many women, after you got to know them well, turned out to be anything like what you thought, or imagined, they would be, when you first met them? or saw them, and decided you wanted to get to know them? For me? Not one.
Then he goes on to talk about the "altar." In our culture, (hell on this board!) there is no shortage of symbols to remind men that women are beautiful. Not sure why he needs that, but whatever. I had an SI desk calendar and a few Marilyn posters.
Then he talks about being complimentary. Wow! Who knew!?
Seriously. It's just a matter of paying attention. Even if you have to keep notes. Notice and remark when a lady has a new hairdo. Nice shoes. A pretty dress. As he says, whatever is appropriate.
As I said. Not new. Not deep.
I disagree with the part where every woman's heart is the fountain of wisdom and light. Just as some men can be utter and complete assholes, women can be predatory, controlling, abusive, and opportunistic users. I know some personally who would take the author of that (very nice) dissertation on the female and give him a whole other perspective by chewing him up and spitting him out. Daily. That kind of woman cannot be made a goddess by worship anymore than an abusive male can be made to keep his hands to himself by a woman learning when to "just shut the fuck up."
I agree with you Barb. I'm not really sure if men actually believe that all women are basically the same,but it's been said to me before "It doesn't matter which woman you end up with...they are all pretty much the same....and you can be happy with any of them."
I think the thing is...the man has to want more out of the relationship then the physical and actually be looking for a woman who is both a friend and a lover. He can't really turn just any woman into his dream girl IMO. The man in the article was just very fortunate that he found his soul mate.
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