When men don’t want sex

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    When men don’t want sex

    Ian Kerner, a sexuality counselor and New York Times best-selling author, blogs about sex on Thursdays on The Chart. Read more from him at his website, GoodInBed.

    “Not tonight, honey. I have a headache.” How many times has a guy heard that before? Husbands around the world are all too familiar with being sexually rejected. But now, more than ever, those words, (or some variation), are being expressed by men, to their female partners. While the conventional wisdom has been that it’s usually the woman in the relationship who inevitably loses interest in sex, the opposite is often true. Low male desire is at all-time high, and is likely to occur for any number of reasons:

    When men don
     
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    I will tell you that it can be very interesting to see the reaction of a woman when you tell her that you're not interested in having sex with her at that time.

    Several years ago I dated a lady who invited me into her home after our third date. We sat around for a while in her living room talking. At which point she looked over at me and asked, quite directly... "Well, are you going to make a move on me or not?" I informed her that No, I was not intending on making "a move" on her that evening.

    She was rather shocked and demanded to know why. I told her the same thing that I'd told her the first time sex had even come up, during our second date.... I don't believe casual sex is appropriate and don't engage in it. Sex is for long-term, committed relationships so far as I'm concerned.

    The look of shock on her face was almost as if I'd told her that I didn't have a penis, or something to that effect. She all but bodily threw me out of her condo and told me that she didn't want to ever hear from or see me again, which at that point was fine with me.
     
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    "When men don’t want sex."


    I can tell this is going to be a short thread.
     
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    Did you check with her neighbor ?
     
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    About what?
     
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    To see if she was intersted in the type of relationship you want.
     
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    is the main reason.


    STOP JERKING OFF DAMNIT!!!
     
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    seriously----dudes haven't figured this one out ?
     
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    No. Hell, until that night I'd never even been to her place. That was one odd evening.
     
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    Well the more you ask, the better chance you got.
     

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